Indulgent emotions are those that you are comfortable with but don’t serve you at all; in other words, they don’t get you the results you want. Doubt is a good example of an indulgent emotion: it feels like it might protect you in some way when it fact it only prevents you from reaching your goals. Doubt is a beta condition that puts you in a place ahead of time, therefore anticipating an outcome based on the past. This outcome [...]
Today I am taking a break from the emotion series to share something extra special and exciting with you! The idea of an impossible goal might seem difficult, it might seem like a waste of time, but I am here to explain to you, brother, about how I think it is absolutely necessary to your growth and success! Oftentimes we set goals and the lack of results deter us from pursuing them properly. The right way to go about it [...]
A lot of us struggle with social and approach anxiety, worrying and stressing about interacting with and meeting people. The good news is that this is a problem that you can overcome, just like I did! I used to find it very hard to attend gathering and parties and would find excuses to not go or drink too much when I did, to buffer these feelings. The main lesson here is to take ownership of our feelings and concerns. It [...]
It is said that shame is the most human of emotions, something we all share. But that does not mean we cannot improve our relationship to this feeling and alter the path of where it comes from. Shame does not arise from things we do or experience, it is the result of thoughts that we have about ourselves and how others view us. As soon as we start taking control of these thoughts and rearranging our patterns of behavior in [...]
Contrary to what you might believe or may have been told, loneliness is not such a big deal. Like so many other things, we tend to think that changing our circumstances is going to make us feel less lonely. But the problem is never the circumstance but rather the thoughts we have about that circumstance. We often speak about loneliness as if it’s an all-consuming state of being, but it’s a time-limited feeling like any other. It’s fleeting. It also [...]
Welcome, brothers. Today I am here to speak about the idea that controlling your thoughts can allow you to also control the emotions you feel on a daily basis. When you start thinking differently about the way you think, you start creating your life in a different, more intentional way. I talk more about the three steps you can take to reprogramming your thinking in order to get out of a victim state and into one where you are in [...]
Today on the show I sit down to talk about morning anxiety-producing thinking and how it can be managed. I share some of the mental strategies that I have researched and practiced myself which have been very effective for me in learning to create more positive thought patterns in my life, which start when I wake up. Most of us wake up and immediately experience some kind of negative and obsessive thought pattern, which can often end up affecting the [...]
Today is particularly special because we’re on episode number 52, which means the podcast has been running for a full year! I’ve helped many of you guys on your way to cognitive mastery, and today I’m going to be sharing everything I’ve taught myself and my students over the past year. How I will approach this overview is by going over each level of the model, namely circumstance, thought, feeling, action and result. But while it may be tempting to [...]
There are so many people out there who are hanging onto the past and defining themselves by what they did or did not do or what happened or didn’t happen to them as kids. It can be so easy to get wrapped up in thinking about the past, which is why in today’s episode, we are talking about how to get rid of it. The past can be 30 years ago and things that happened to us as children or [...]
Money is not a problem in and of itself. It is a mere circumstance. We recently spoke about wanting from abundance and not scarcity, which basically requires you to stop thinking about everything you don’t have and instead focus on the things you already have – and wanting them! It’s not the money in your bank account that makes you feel either good or bad, but the narrative you tell yourself about that money – what that money means. Separating [...]
