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//Ep #71: What Is A Belief?

Ep #71: What Is A Belief?

March is the month of creating new beliefs with the Spartan Academy.  We are going to take a deep look at what a belief actually is, and the defining characteristics of beliefs.  There is a relationship between your thoughts and beliefs that we will break down in this episode.  You will understand that beliefs are NOT facts.

Beliefs are binding and separating, we’re diving into the how these beliefs effect our actions and relationships.  Many of these beliefs come from childhood, and we operate in adulthood essentially as children.  We look at separating beliefs from facts in this episode.

 

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What You’ll Learn From this Episode:

  • How to tell the difference between beliefs and facts
  • A summery of the neuroscience behind forming new beliefs
  • Where beliefs come from
  • How we can figure out what our beliefs actually are
  • How to tell the difference between a belief in the Alpha state and the beta condition.

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Welcome to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, the only podcast that teaches men the cognitive mastery and alpha mindset that it takes to become an influential and irresistible man of confidence. Here’s your host, certified life coach and international man of mystery, Kevin Aillaud.

What’s up my brothers? Welcome back to the Alpha Male Coach Podcast. I am your host, Kevin Aillaud, and I’m super excited about this whole month. This whole month we are going to be talking about beliefs and beliefs are the key. Actually, they’re more like the doorway through which you walk to create the life that you are intended to live. And then what I mean by that is that you cannot live a life, you cannot create a result. Remember the model guys, right? CTFA are the thoughts, create the feelings that drive the actions that determine the results. You cannot have the results that you want in your life without believing in the story about yourself to match those results. So it’s all about belief. It all begins with the thought, the thought line right in the model. It begins there and you have to believe it. It has to be a belief.

So we’re going to talk about beliefs this whole month because that’s what we’re doing in the Spartans. In the Spartan Academy we are talking about how to believe new things. And so the first thing I want to do is talk about beliefs and then the rest of this month we’re going to talk about some of the beliefs that people think are facts. And that’s really the defining characteristic of a belief, is that people think that their beliefs are facts. But before I get into that guys, I want to tell you something that I just put on the Alpha Male Coach website and it is a brand new course, an eight lesson course. It’s the indomitable self-confidence course. I used to teach this course as a mastermind and now it is available to you for you, as a do it on your own, on your own pace, in your home program that you can start today.

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All right, let’s talk about beliefs. Beliefs are, well, they’re really misunderstood now. They’re not as misunderstood as relationships. But again, relationships aren’t beliefs as well, right, because all relationships are thoughts and that’s really what beliefs are. Beliefs are like thoughts on steroids, right? So they are thoughts. All beliefs are thoughts, but not all thoughts, our beliefs. So it’s kind of like that, like all squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares, like that square is a special rectangle. Well a belief is a special kind of thought. It’s a bulked up thought. It’s a thought that you’ve thought over and over and over again. So many times in fact that you think it’s a fact. And I’m going to get back to that in a second because that’s kind of like the defining characteristic. There’s a lot of descriptive characteristics of what a belief is and one of them is a thought on steroids, right? We can kind of describe it that way. It’s like a thought that you’ve thought over and over and over again.

So your brain is a network of neurons. Okay. Network of neurons. So we call it a neural net, which is kind of funny, right? It’s like, oh yeah, okay, brain scientists, they are very clever. They call a network of neurons and neural net. But in this neural net, what we have is all this electrical and chemical and cellular stuff happening all at once. And I’m not going to get into the neuroscience because it’s very complex and it’s outside the scope of this particular episode. But with all that going on, when you think you create tangible matter, you create gray matter, you create a part of the neural net, having to do with the neurons and the synapses and the axons and everything that goes on. All the cellular, all the actual tangible stuff in your brain, you create that with your thoughts. And the more you think it, the stronger that gray matter, the stronger that cellular connection becomes.

So it’s almost like a muscle, right? It’s almost like a muscle that you’re working and the more you think a thought, when you think it over and over and over, it’s like doing a repetition over and over and over. You’re making that thought stronger the same way you would make a muscle stronger, by doing reps with it. Now, of course, to make a muscle stronger, what do you have to do? You have to push that muscle, that contractile potential beyond its capacity, right? You have to stress it out. So when you stress it out and you push it past its capacity, then it adapts to that new level of capacity and now you’re stronger, right? And it’s the same way with a thought. When you’re thinking a thought over and over and over again, and then you feel it and you act on it and you see it, your brain looks for it, it looks for that evidence. It’s like making it stronger. It’s reinforcing it.

And that’s another part of beliefs. As your beliefs, as your thoughts start to become beliefs, your brain uses neutral circumstances to reinforce them as evidence. So it makes itself stronger and it reinforces the strength of this thought. And eventually with the thought, when it becomes so strong, it starts to release that neurochemical right, that biochemical. And that’s what we know as emotion. If you’ve listened to any of their other podcasts, you probably know that emotions and feelings are similar, but different. Emotions create feelings. Emotions are biochemicals. They are tangible, observable. We know what these are, these are neurotransmitters and they are released when the thought, when the neural net is strong enough to put those emotions out there.

Now I want you to understand guys, it’s not a switch, okay? And it’s not like an on off, it’s all of a sudden like I thought this thought a hundred times and I have no emotional response and then I think this thought 101 times and all of a sudden bam, I’m feeling stuff. That’s not the way it works. As you think the thought, you’re releasing chemical, but it’s the intensity at which you feel that, that is increasing. And as you strengthen that thought, as you strengthen that belief, eventually it becomes very, very strong. That’s why the stronger the emotion, the stronger the feeling, the stronger the belief because it’s a very, very strong thought. Now beliefs are binding and they are separating.

Now they’re binding and they’re separating because of their defining characteristic. And there’s kind of two defining characteristics that go together, and I’m going to get to that in one second. But I want you guys to know that beliefs are binding and they are separating because in their separating nature, what they do is we find a place to disagree. Essentially when we disagree with someone, we take our beliefs, right, that what we think is true about ourselves in the world and we push it against somebody else’s beliefs and what they think is true about the world. And if there’s a disagreement, the thought is I’m right, they’re wrong, right? Maybe you’ve heard of this before, maybe this has happened to you before, my friend, right, where you’re thinking this person is wrong. They need to be fixed. They need to be changed. They need to be convinced that what I am telling them is true, okay? Now if that’s the case, if there is a contention, then by definition, almost by definition, we know it’s a belief right.

Now, of course there are some facts that people contend and we just kind of dismiss that as well, okay, whatever. But most of the time when there is contention, when there’s disagreement, it’s because what the disagreement is over is a belief, it’s not a fact because facts are things that everyone would agree to. That’s something we know about facts and circumstances. For example, the world being round. I know that’s something everybody would agree to. And if somebody says, hey, the world is flat, we don’t really engage, we don’t try to convince them that the world is round. We just kind of allow them to do their thing because we know that the world is round, it’s not a fact that we’re going to argue over. But we do argue over beliefs because beliefs have that sort of emotional, that beliefs have more to do with our identity than they do with the world. Facts have to do with the world. Gravity, we’re not going to argue. It’s like, look, you can believe in gravity if you want. It doesn’t make a difference to me. It exists, it’s there, it’s gravity, right? What goes up must come down, it happens. Same thing with the world being round.

But when it comes to our personal beliefs, when it comes to our identity, we feel very defensive and very protective about these things, so we struggle and we try very hard to control and get people to believe what we believe, especially the people that we want close to us and in our lives. So that’s something we know about beliefs and they’re separating in that way when we disagree and they can be binding when we agree. Now I want you guys to understand one thing before getting into the defining characteristic here is that the more specific a belief gets, the more separating a belief gets. Now that’s just for your own edification, something for you to think about is that on a large scale, when we have commonly held beliefs, beliefs that are very inclusive and broad and general, like love each other, right, be loving, be kind, be generous with each other.

Most people are going to be on board with that belief. Most people are going to say, yeah, that’s a generally way that we want to treat other human beings. And we all hold that beliefs. But as we get more specific with our beliefs, in terms of how to do that or what ways to do that or what religion to follow in, and how that’s executed or even what government, like in what types of governments and what kind of laws do we want to enforce, how we treat each other. All of those kinds of beliefs, they get more specific and as they get more specific, they start to separate us. They separate us through our religious beliefs, through our political beliefs, through the boundaries of our nations and so on and so forth. And then we get even more separating when we get even more specific and we get very personal with our beliefs.

The more specific and personal and complex and detailed our beliefs are, the more likely they are to be in contention or disagreement with other people, and that is where they start to separate us. Now here’s the thing, here’s the defining characteristic of a belief and it’s very important you guys understand this because it is the key to unlocking the door of mastering belief, of cognitive mastery because beliefs are cognition, right, they are thoughts. And how you can start to change your beliefs, how you can start to create the results that you want in your life through the story you tell yourself about yourself.

Here’s the defining characteristic guys. It’s two. One is that they are mistaken as facts, okay? People think beliefs are facts. People don’t know that their beliefs are thoughts, that they’ve chosen to believe that, that they have a choice and that they have chosen to have these thoughts. That these thoughts are not true for everyone, but they are true for them. That’s number one. And number two is that the belief will elicit an emotional response. We know a thought is different from a belief when we have an emotional response to it. We don’t always have emotional responses with thoughts. I can think anything I want. Thoughts are infinite. I can think there is a purple pancake floating in space orbiting by a Rubik’s cube, being danced on by unicorns who spend their days practicing Japanese and the violin or the flute. Who knows? Like who cares? But if you picture that in your mind, so what? That’s a thought. It’s just a thought, right?

There’s no emotional response to that. There might be a laughter to that. There might be some sort of silliness, but that’s different. That’s a bodily reaction having to do with something else entirely. But when you think about that thought, it’s like, okay, there is no emotional response there, but when you get into thoughts that you believe, that feel like facts and all of a sudden boom, you are heavily into an emotional response because your brain doesn’t know the difference. Your brain gives you that emotional response in order to create action. So thoughts are infinite. You can think anything. Facts, same thing on the other side of the spectrum. They don’t create emotions either. They don’t have an emotional response either, but facts just are what are. They do not have any control, right? We do not have any control on facts.

Facts, just they exist out there. They’re things everybody would agree to. These are things that are objective. What we have a one side, the thought that is infinite, you can choose to think anything you want completely into your own free will and volition. On the other side, we have facts that are completely out of your control. You cannot choose. They are what they are, but both thoughts and facts have no emotional response. It’s the mesh between the two. It’s the integration of belief where we think our thoughts are facts. That’s where we get the emotional response. That’s where emotion comes from and that’s how we drive our action. That’s why it is the doorway guys, because facts are our lives, facts or circumstances. Facts is a perfection that we exist in. Fact is the human life, right, the human experience. You exist in fact like fact is the water that the fish swims in, right?

For us as humans, it’s just that constantly unfolding kaleidoscope of perfection that we know as the present moment. And when you have that constantly unfolding in front of you, it is how you integrate your thoughts, the infinite choice that you have in order to repeat and practice and with effort turn into belief. That’s the key. That’s the path to intentional living. That’s the path to intentionally creating your life. So that’s what a belief is. A belief is a thought on steroids. It’s a thought we thought over and over that we mistake as a fact and gives us an emotional response.

Now, where do beliefs come from? Beliefs come from our past. I mean, beliefs come from our memory. Understand this guys, thoughts are in the present. There is no such thing as an old thought. You can be thinking about the past, but you’re thinking about the past in the present. So there’s no such thing as an old thought. But I do want you to know that a belief is a practiced thought. So even though you are thinking it now in the present and it’s happening now, it’s a thought that’s coming from your past because it’s over and over and over. It’s something that’s familiar to you. It feels comfortable. Even if the emotion is uncomfortable, even if the belief that you have is creating an uncomfortable emotion, the thought itself is familiar and comfortable because it’s been repeated so many times. It’s like, yeah, there it is again. It’s almost like feeling comfortable in misery, right, because you know it’s there. It’s like, oh yeah, I’m feeling self-pity again, or, oh yeah, I’m feeling depression again, or, oh yeah, I’m feeling jealousy again.

It’s like it’s there in its state of uneasy comfort, right. And so you have this happening sort of all the time because of the past. But understand guys, it’s still happening right here in the moment. So beliefs come from our memory. They come from that neural network. Again, they come from those thoughts that we’ve strengthened and we have thought over and over and over again. So essentially what I want you to know is that our beliefs come from our childhood. If we’ve never really had the education, if you’ve never had the training, never had the coaching on how to elevate the alpha state, sort of bring up that alpha adult brain, that human brain, then our belief system was created in our childhood.

Our belief system was created as we were creating our story about the world, and that comes from childhood. That comes from when we were kids and we had our parents teaching us lessons and our society, culture, teaching us lessons, and our teachers teaching us lessons. And we were bringing in all of this information about the world through the eyes of a small human who did not have the ability to survive on their own. And here’s that, and that’s the thing guys, human beings because it’s so ironic and so amazing, because it’s because of our prefrontal cortex. It’s because of our alpha state, it’s because of our big brains, that we have to be born premature.

Human beings are a species that is born premature because our brains, our big old heads have to fit out of the female body, right, like we got to get out of our mother’s and if we would get out of our mothers, we got to do that before the brain is fully developed, otherwise we’re going to split our mother in two. We’re going to split this woman in two, so we come out, but we’re born premature. So we can’t survive on our own. As babies, up until very late in childhood, we really can’t survive on our own. Maybe now, in today’s innovative and technologically advanced society, we could. Maybe around four or five, six we could start to survive on our own. But think about a four, five, six year old out in ten thousand, twenty thousand years ago, that is just a tiger’s dream, right? That’s a predator’s dream. So it takes training and you have to become a hunter and you have to know what kind of plants to eat, hunter-gatherer, you have to learn these things.

So human beings have never been able to survive on their own until later on in life. And because of that, as we develop our stories about the world and the stories about ourselves, it always comes from fear. It always comes from that place of safety and security of I need to survive, and in order to survive, I am dependent all on my parents, the tribe, other people because I can’t survive on my own. So our brain is developing and creating a belief system of dependency, all right, of dependency and scarcity. There’s not enough. I need to make sure that there’s enough for me and it’s given to me by these people, of safety and security. And that is that animal brain autopilot. Remember the motivational triad? You guys know this, to seek pleasure, avoid pain and work as efficiently as possible. And that’s what the brain did in order to create the current belief system.

The question is always being asked, and this is the beta condition guys. Now I come down hard on the beta condition but understand the beta condition is not a bad thing. It’s a very important thing. It’s our child brain. It’s the first way we start to interpret the world around us, what it means to be human. And the first question that’s always being asked by the brain in that developmental beta conditions state, that state of dependency and of I need help in order to be raised and survive is, does it keep me safe? Does it keep me secure? And so as you look at the world and say, does it keep me safe, does it keep me secure, you start to build these beliefs about yes or no, yes or no. Does it keep me safe to make this person happy? Yes, because then they’re happy and they’ll keep me happy. Then they’ll support me and they’ll keep me alive. Boom, the belief system of people pleasing begins.

Now where the beta condition where that the child brain is saying, and I say the child brain, but it’s the beta condition, right? It’s the safety brain. It’s the animal brain where the where the animal brain is looking in the world, saying there’s scarcity, it’s hostile, I need to be safe, I need to be secure, I’m afraid, I need to stay in the cave. That beta condition is, does it keep me safe, does it keep me secure? The alpha state is, does it serve my future? Does it serve creation? Because again, it’s more of like it’s looking into the future.

It knows that safety is a state of mind. Safety is not a guarantee. Safety is not something that you can count on, guarantee or plan for. It’s a thought, it’s a feeling. So you create your feelings. This alpha state knows you create safety, security through cognition. And if you are feeling insecure, if you’re feeling doubt, then you know you can handle those emotions because of indomitable self confidence. So with the alpha state, you’re in a much different place. You’re in a state of creation, a state of giving instead of a state of safety, security, sort of that state of taking or hiding. So that’s where beliefs come from. They come from our past, but they are always decided by us. In the present moment, we can choose to have any belief we want. But in order to change our beliefs, we have to know what our beliefs are.

The first thing we have to know is what our beliefs are. And I’ve given you guys this algorithm before too. First we find out what our beliefs are by separating our beliefs from the facts, which is the big first step. That’s the 80% move. Then we observe that belief with compassion before determining what we want to feel. What do we want to be? What do we want to feel? And we go on to create and practice the thought with the feeling in order to make that happen. But that’s so difficult. That’s so difficult. That’s so much easier than done. And the reason why it’s so difficult, the reason why it’s so hard to change beliefs is for a lot of reasons. Number one, a lot of people don’t even know that they have the power to change beliefs. There’s a belief that some people have that beliefs are inherent, that I believe what I believe because I was born to believe this. Sort of like this is just the way I am and I’m bored and I believe this.

Now that is kind of like not knowing that your belief is a belief. It’s kind of like thinking that your belief is a fact. If you believe that you’re not good at organizing like that skill, like I’ve never been a good organizer, I don’t believe I’m a good organizer, there’s kind of this belief that they don’t think that these people, they don’t think that they have the ability to become a good organizer because they don’t know that it’s a belief. They think that’s just inherit fact about them. So it kind of goes along with that and that’s the big one. That’s the big one, is that the hardest way, the reason why it’s so hard for most people to change a belief is because they don’t know that what they’re thinking is a thought. They don’t know that it is a belief at all. They think it’s a fact. That’s the big thing. That is the major reason why beliefs are so hard to change.

I will get on consultation calls with student candidates. And even with my students too, I’ll get on calls with my students and even myself, I’ll be talking to my brother. My brother will hit me too. He’ll be like, bro, is that a thought or a fact? And if you guys have been on a consultation call with me or heard any of these podcasts, you know that that’s my thing, right. It’s like, I’ll hit you with that. Is that a thought or a fact? Is that a thought or a fact? And most people will tell me it’s a fact. I know of course it’s a thought because I’m listening to you and I know what the thoughts are, but you will tell me it’s a fact and as soon as you tell me it’s a fact, I know it’s a belief. I know that you are so strongly attached to it that you really honestly think that everybody else thinks the same way, that you really honestly think that, that’s just the way the world is or that’s just the way you are. That’s just the way all people would think.

But I’ll tell you something. That’s the power of coaching. The power of coaching is to help you identify that your beliefs are not facts my friend. Your beliefs are exactly what is holding you back from your personal greatness, and the reason why is because you don’t think you can change them because you think that they’re unchangeable. You think that they’re facts. It’s so hard to get out of these beliefs because you don’t know you can’t. That’s why I keep saying 80% of the move is separating facts from thoughts, separating circumstance from thoughts, doing those models, looking at those thought downloads because guys, when you can do that, when your brain shatters that glass ceiling of limiting belief or like I like to say like dripping it. Have you ever watched WWF, Hulk Hogan what he tears his shirt, he gets into the room and just rips his shirt, just right off. It’s the same thing. You’re just shredding the fabric of belief. You’re tearing it. You’re pulling apart the thoughts from the facts and you’re looking at them and observing the two in separation rather than in integration, which is what the belief is, where you think, okay, I have these thoughts, but they’re facts because I feel them and they’re true and everybody else would think them too.

And when you separate them, when you tear them apart and you can see your thoughts, your subjectivity around that object of fact, that my friend is where the real change begins. That’s 80% of the move. But that’s what’s so difficult is because of the emotional experience that they’re tied to. And that’s why processing emotion is one of the things that I teach in the skill of cognitive mastery and emotional ownership. Because when you’re in that emotional experience, it feels like you’re fighting reality. When you’re in a belief, remember, facts don’t elicit an emotional response, beliefs do. So when you’re in a belief, you are in an emotion, you are having an emotional experience. And when you’re trying to change that belief, when you’re saying, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, I don’t want to believe this, I don’t want to feel this. This is not intentional. This is not choosing this. This is happening because of the beta conditions is happening because of an old belief system.

It’s so important to process that emotion because if you don’t know how to process the emotion that you’re feeling unintentionally, then the resistance gets in there, you have the have fighting. It’s like, I don’t want to feel this, I don’t want to feel this, I shouldn’t be feeling this. I should be believing something different. I should be feeling something different. And there’s that fighting, but that’s also why it’s difficult to change the belief because there’s a feeling that I should be resisting. I shouldn’t be feeling this, I should be resisting. This is what I want to believe. This is what I want to be feeling, and you try so hard to go, you’re like hitting your head against that brick wall. That’s why processing emotion is a skill towards cognitive mastery. It’s a skill towards changing your belief. It’s a skill towards intentional living.

Another reason why it’s so hard is because of beating yourself up. I mean, people beat themselves up. They look at their beta condition, they look at their childhood beliefs, and they say, oh my gosh, you’re telling me my whole life, I’ve been choosing to believe this, I’ve been creating my reality based on this thought. And then they go back and they think they’ve been doing it wrong. They’re pointing themselves out, how wrong they’ve been doing them, how bad things are. I’ve talked to you guys about having a relationship with yourself. Have that relationship with yourself. So imagine a sports team or a coach where the only thing the coach ever tells you, and the only thing that this other player, like a team captain ever tells you is what you’re doing wrong.

So you go out there, you run a scrimmage or you run a play, and you come in and the coach just tells you everything you’re doing wrong. Okay, you did this wrong, you did that wrong, you did this wrong, go out and run it again. You come back. You did this wrong, you did this wrong, you did that wrong, go out, run it again. Never telling you what to do right. Never telling you how to improve, giving you any tips or pointers or telling you, okay, this is what you did right now to get a little bit better, you can try that. It’s just wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong. You’re never going to get it. You’re never going to be good enough. That’s kind of what your brain is doing when you go back and beat yourself up over your belief system.

What you want to do is you want to have compassion with that belief system. Look, brother, here’s the thing you chose to have these beliefs. Not because you wanted to sabotage your adulthood, but because you were taking care of your childhood. If you go back and beat up your belief system and say, oh, I shouldn’t have thought that, you’re basically saying that where you are is where you shouldn’t be. It’s like being that coach that’s saying you’re doing this wrongm you do this wrong, you do this wrong. But by telling your team that they’re doing it wrong, they’re not going to get any better. They’re not going to learn and become better basketball players or baseball players, football players, whatever. They’re just going to know how not to do it, and that’s all your brain is doing for you when you beat yourself up about the beliefs that created your reality.

If you don’t like where you are. If you’re unhappy with where you are, the first thing you want to do is go back and look at those belief systems and be happy about where you are. Love where you are because you can choose to create the emotion that you want. So you go back and you look and instead of beating yourself up, coming down on yourself, it’s okay. Just like a coach, just like a coach of a sports team, you say, here’s what you did right. So you look at that belief system and said, yes. When I was there and I started thinking this, I thought this for this reason. It was to keep me safe and secure because I wanted to feel safety and love and whatever it was, and I did that right. I made the right choice at that time. It wasn’t the wrong choice, it was the right choice and we know it was the right choice because it was the choice that was made.

The second thing you do as the coach, right, is the next thing you do with your players is say, okay, this is what you did right, now this is what you can do to improve. And this is what you can do now to get better on the next time you go out. And do the same thing with yourself. So you go back and you look at that belief and you say, this is what I did right. I made this choice to be safe because I didn’t know I was a child and I wanted to feel safety and I didn’t know how the way the world works and I made these choices and I had this knowledge and I made that choice with that knowledge. And now I’m an adult and now I have all this other understanding, all this more knowledge of the world and now I can make new choices. Now I can make new decisions about what I want to think and what I want to believe.

But that’s the process. That’s how we do it. If you beat yourself up, then you will not change your belief. It just doesn’t work that way. Again, it’s the same as a coach always telling you what you’re doing wrong. And again, do you want to play on that team? That’s the question. Do you want to play on that team? Would you keep going to that practice if all you’re being told is what you’re doing wrong. You’re not even getting any better. All you’re just doing is you just stopped doing the wrong stuff. That’s what your brain is doing when you beat yourself up. It does you no service, it does you no good. But it prevents you from being able to effectively change your beliefs.

Now guys, look, I can go on and on and on about beliefs because beliefs are the key and I can guarantee you that there will be more podcasts on beliefs. This entire month I’m going to expose some of the beliefs that I think a lot of people think are facts. And it’s possible that these beliefs, because the one thing about beliefs that you want to keep in mind all the time from your alpha state is does it serve you? Does it serve your future? Does it serve what you want to create? Not does it keep you safe. Not does it keep you secure. That’s the old beta condition questions. But does it serve your future? And there are some theories, I’ll call them theories. There are some theories that are commonly accepted by society as facts. And I’m going to expose some of those this month because in the Spartans all this month, what we’re doing is learning how to create new beliefs, the new beliefs that serve us.

So if you’re interested in that, if you want to create a new belief system for yourself or even just identify the current belief system that you have, that I highly recommend. In fact, I invite you to join the elevated Alpha Spartan Academy for the development of cognitive mastery. You could go to thealphamalecoach.com and check that out right at the top there it says work with Kevin. Click on that and you’ll find it there. Elevate alpha society Spartans. But if you haven’t already, you can also just check out a consultation call, free 45 minute call with me and that call, what I will do is I will show you that this so-called fact that you think is causing your suffering is really a belief that you are choosing to think and that you have the power to feel amazing now to create the life that you’re intended to live.

Whatever you’re suffering with, whatever you’re struggling with, whatever issue is going on in your life, it is a thought and it may be. And if you don’t think it’s a thought brother, then it’s a belief. It’s not a fact. Facts don’t cause suffering, thoughts do. And if you don’t know, it’s a thought, then it’s a belief. Sign up for a consultation call and we’ll find it together. I promise you. I will show you the fact and that will help you separate from that fact, your subjectivity, your problem. And you’ll be able to see the problem in its entirety. That’s what I got for you today, my friend. Until next week, elevate your health.

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