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Today we’re going to talk about certainty. It’s almost the great human condition to seek certainty or some fixed reality that can be relied on. The illusion that the moment is unsafe and uncertain creeps into the back of our minds and creates fear. The now is transient, the now is in flux, and that’s dangerous. This is an illusion for most humans because, of course, the moment is certain. Today, brothers, we are going to talk about how the moment is what we have and the moment is where we find truth, but the mind rejects the moment and seeks certainty in the future or the past. This ties into the primary principle that everything is a story. Since our desire is to create certainty, we create a story in our minds that we bring into reality. We repeat that story so often and teach it to other generations and eventually, the story becomes a reality. We know that the more certain we are of our stories internally and collectively, the more we develop our rigid structure of the external world.
Join me today as we examine certainty and what we can truly be certain of. We question if we can really be certain of the written past, or even our own direct experience when all we know is the stories we tell ourselves about the past and not the past itself. We talk about how uncertainty develops because there is a reliance on the certainty of that which is fundamentally uncertain, resulting in an underlying vibration of anxiety, doubt, and fear. We also discuss how by thinking that we can be certain of the future, this becomes another illusion that draws us into suffering.
While certainty is not a necessity, nor even a possibility, brothers, today I want to offer that there is a place where we can find certainty. Tune in to find out how you can always be certain of where, when, and who you are. At every moment of time, you have a core or an anchor that you can be certain about. This is your inner authority and truth. This is your energy mechanics and alpha state. Listen in today to find out how you can be certain of yourself, live in the joy, love, peace, and freedom of the now, and rejoice in the perfection of what is being offered.
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What You’ll Learn from This Episode:
- The great human condition to seek certainty.
- The mind rejects the moment and seeks certainty in the future or the past.
- We are creating the world as we create our stories.
- You can always be certain of where, when, and who you are.
- Right here is the totality of everything.
- The certainty of the past or future isn’t possible or important.
- What you can be certain of is yourself.
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[INTRO]
[00:00:08] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, the only podcast that teaches men the cognitive mastery and alpha mindset that it takes to become an influential and irresistible man of confidence.
Here’s your host, certified life coach, and international man of mystery, Kevin Aillaud.
[EPISODE]
[00:00:31] KA: What’s up my brothers? Welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. I am your host, Kevin Aillaud, and I am here in Los Angeles, California. If you didn’t know, I am back stateside. I’ve been back stateside for a while. I’ll be back for a little while longer for a few weeks. I was up in Oregon last week, two weeks ago. I actually came back in June, I was in Florida, went through Arizona I was up in Oregon. I decided to drop down into California, just for a couple of weeks to do a little surfing, see what’s going on down here. I’m in downtown LA and that makes it easy for me to get to several spots and get to Huntington, I can get to Newport, I can get to Santa Monica, over the course of the next week or so. A lot of it’s determined by the weather as well.
Here’s the thing, the reason why I’m telling you this is because while I’m in downtown Los Angeles, while I’m in downtown LA, I love staying at the Biltmore Millennium, which is an amazing hotel. I love staying here when I am in Los Angeles. Now, I got to say that because of the way I just said that. I got it – they aren’t paying me to say this, brothers, like, this is not an endorsement. I’m not being paid to advertise for the Biltmore. I just love it here because of some of the really cool film history that this hotel has.
The Biltmore was in that movie, Splash with Tom Hanks, which was made a long time ago in 1984, it was about a mermaid. So, if you haven’t heard of it, I don’t blame you, but that show Mad Men was filmed here. A lot of scenes were filmed here. Parts of the movie Cruel Intentions were filmed here. The movie, Beverly Hills Cop, I love that movie with Eddie Murphy in it. That was filmed here. That’s so great. One of my favorite movies of all time, Ghostbusters, I think you guys know, that I love Ghostbusters. I love Bill Murray. I’m a big Bill Murray fan. I love that movie. A part of that movie was filmed here. That is why I decided to stay at the Biltmore when I’m in LA.
Now, today we’re going to talk about certainty, we’re going to get into certainty today, which I think is something that most human beings are seeking. It’s almost the great human condition or the great human experience to seek certainty to seek some kind of certainty, or rigidity, or some fixed reality that can be relied on. There is this illusion that creates a fear, and it creeps into the back of our mind, it is this, the moment is unsafe, it is uncertain, what’s happening now will pass. I don’t know if I can hang on to the now, the now is transient, the now is in change, the now is in flux and that’s dangerous, it makes it uncertain.
It is an illusion and is it is unconscious for most humans, because of course the moment is certain, the moment is what we have and the moment is where we find truth, it is the now, but the mind, rejects the moment and seek certainty in the future or the past. This is a result of the primary principle, which is that everything is a story. Since everything is a story. It is the desire and in the minds of many, in the minds of many humans. I would even say that is the purpose of mankind to express metaphysical alchemy, which is to say, to turn a story that we create into a reality, that our desire is to create certainty that we create a story in our mind, and we bring it into reality.
We repeat that story so often, and teach it to the generations that come past us that eventually the story becomes a reality. We’ve done that very well with a lot of things. Of course, everything being a story, when we recognize as a primary principle, we can always roll back and we have freedom in that. We find a lot of liberation in the truth that we can choose to think, believe, express, anything we want. We also need to know how much of what we believe is thought by our species, our human species to be effect, that’s C1 that’s circumstance one. That’s what goes in the circumstance one line, is the stories we all agree to.
This is the purpose of knowledge. The purpose of knowledge is to build more and more certainty by collecting more and more information trying to determine an ultimate big picture. We have this driving force. We have this, driving forces humans to be certain of our stories to create certainty from our stories, to create some fixed rigidity of reality, from an idea. We can only do that when we all agreed to it. We can only do that when all humans agree to it, that’s when it becomes a circumstance. We know that we are creating the world as we create our stories. The more certain we are of our stories internally, collectively, the more we develop our rigid structure of the external world.
This is why we are so hesitant to let go of beliefs, brothers. When we let go of beliefs, we are letting go of certainty, we’re letting go of this certainty that we’ve put so much safety in, so much security, we’re letting go of the rigidity that provides us a structure of safety. We aim for certainty, we aim for a fixed sense of pleasure, we don’t just want certainty, we want a certainty of happiness, a certainty of pleasure. We want our lives to be a utopian sense of pleasure, right? We want certainty, but we want certainty in a specific way. We aim for what our mind tells us we lack, this is the human condition. This is always what we seek.
Let’s examine certainty. What is certainty? What can we be as human beings, as a physical, as a matter of a physical, mental and spiritual being? What can we truly be certain of? What is certainty? Certainty is a fact, that is definitely true, or an event that is definitely going to take place. At least, this is the definition I get from Google. I’ll say that again, because this is the definition I just took right from the inter-webs. It says, “a fact that is definitely true or an event that is definitely going to take place.” A fact that is definitely true or an event that is definitely going to take place; this sounds a lot the past in the future, because the fact that is definitely true comes from the past, it comes from what I just said, stories that we create, and then repeat often enough down the lines of heredity and generations, until eventually it just becomes this known fact, it’s common sense, of course this is true.
It takes a huge change, a huge deviation of what’s known, in order to change what we – for example, we used to all think, all humans used to think the world is flat. I use this analogy a lot. All humans used to think that the world was flat, and it took a lot of what we saw evidence right took a lot of evidence, but really the truth is it took a lot of new stories to change what we all now know, as the world being round. Not everybody believes that, there still people who believe the world is flat. The truth is, we have just changed the story, now everybody believes the new story. It used to be we go way back way back. It used to be that gold, precious metal or gems or other forms of commodity were used as currency, were used as forms of trade. The story was there was value in those things. Now there’s value in a new story, we call it money, currency.
What is meant here for a fact to be definitely true is only to create a story. Then to repeat it over and over, this comes from the past and from the future is the part of the definition it says an event that is definitely going to take place, so is definitely going to take place. The certainty comes from the definite, the sun will definitely rise on the horizon tomorrow. That’s something that will definitely take place tomorrow. There’s certainty in there. We want to be certain of our past, that we want to be certain of the future. We want to call it a fact, right brothers? We want something that’s reliable, this is certainty. When I hear brothers come to consultation calls, they talk about I certainty, I’m missing certainty, I’m missing the knowing.
There’s a difference between certainty and knowing we can never be certain of the future. Can we be certain of the past? Let’s begin there, because, this is an explosive question. I can dedicate an entire podcast series to that question. Maybe one day, in the future, I will. Maybe I’ll just wait another year. We’ll do it for the past month that comes back. How to rewrite the past? We’ll do it next July. Because can we be certain of the past? Forget about the pre-written language, forget about the part of our past that’s pre-written, pre-language, which is all before the chiseling, and stone tablets, all the hieroglyphs and stuff before all the paintings on the wall, before all of that, before all that, we don’t know. We have no record of that, right? Forget about all that.
What about pre video evidence? What can we really rely on? If we don’t have video evidence of it. I mean, a written record was written by the basic condition of other human beings. Do you understand that? Other human beings from their perspective, from their beta condition, from their unique and narrow perspective of the way things happened or are happening, they have written this past. Pre-video evidence, we have stories of specific people, very few people in fact. We only have a perspective of an event. We don’t have the truth of the event.
This would stand to be the case for all of life outside of our own, outside of our own direct experience. What about our own direct experience? What about our own past? What can we say about our own lives that we have experienced directly, where we can say there’s some certainty in what happened? What truth have we determined when we look at our path? When we look at our own past, all we see when we look at our own past is the story we tell ourselves about the event. We never see the event itself. We can’t see the event itself, my friends, even when we have video evidence of it, just look at what happens when a video is shown to a group of people.
You show a video to a group of people, people see what they want to see, they’re going to see what their brains have predetermined is there, due to the belief system that makes up the world that they’re creating. We all do this. This is the foundation of disagreement. This is where we come to disagreement. This is where two people can view the same thing and see two completely different events, consider any video, any video offered to the public and look at how specific it gets. It begins with the observation of the event. We all see the event, never in its neutral form only from the confirmed bias of our own brain, right? We’re looking at it from our perspective.
First, we see what we want to see, we see what we are telling ourselves is already there, then there may be or may not be right? It may be this may or may not happen, where there’s an appeal to experience that our brain says, I don’t actually know what’s happening, because I wasn’t actually there. Then there becomes this non certainty about the event, we say, “Well, now I’m uncertain about the event, unless I was actually there.” Because the video itself isn’t enough, even with video evidence, it becomes not enough. Now there has to be this direct experience. Then it even may go further, because certainty only arises if you are a participant in the event, even with direct experience of being there observing what is happening through that video evidence, you’re still not a participant in what’s going on, you’re just a spectator.
Without being a participant, you don’t know with 100 percent certainty what the experience was. You won’t have the full story or picture. Consider this, brothers we never know our past will never provide us with certainty, because it looks backwards through a shattered window of conditioning. The window is broken, and we’re trying to view it. We won’t find any truth about who we are in the past, we will only find stories that we tell ourselves about ourselves, a name, a school and education, a nationality or religion, a political ideology, and economic class. These are all stories that we collect during the course of our movement through time. These exist only in the past.
They are not a part of our truth in the moment. It is not a part of our alpha state. These are illusions that provide us with some sense of certainty, remember, certainty, some sense of safety, some sense of certainty, security, safety, identity and yet we know that these stories have no truth or substance, which allows for a foundation of uncertainty to develop. This is the underlying vibration. Uncertainty develops because there is a reliance of certainty on which is fundamentally uncertain. So, we get this underlying vibration, of anxiety of doubt, of worry and fear of what is uncertain what is fundamentally uncertain. Yet we try to put so much certainty in it.
That is our past. What about our future? Does the future provide us with more certainty? It should. Think about that. We should have more certainty of the future. That is what we want to be certain about, we want to be certain about what comes next. We want to be certain that the future is what we want it to be. We want it to be happy and good for us and good for the people that we love. We want it to be certain. We want to be certain. Do we want it to be certain? We want to be certain of the plans that we have, and the expectations that we create.
This is where the idea of certainty really gets wild, crazy, because we have these expectations. We think that we can be certain of the future. This is another illusion that draws us into suffering.
Now I’ve talked about expectation, right? I’ve talked about this many times, but this is very different from what I’ve also talked about, which is the idea of knowing into your future. This is a process of mind of leading with the cognitive process of mind. However, this is not the same process as expectation or outcome. We have these outcomes that we want for the future, that we want to be so certain about and it’s very different than knowing when we know, we have no attachment to the future, we just know it. When we’re certain of it, we have expectation of it. Now there’s an attachment to it, this outcome must be arrived at. It must manifest.
The future is never known, the future is never certain and when I teach the concept of knowing it’s your future brother. Sometimes use the example of a plane ticket booked for a flight to Hawaii. In fact, if you are a fan of the podcast, you’ve probably heard me use this example before, when you book your ticket to go to Hawaii, you got your plane ticket, and you’re going to Hawaii and you have your hotel room booked and everything is set up for your vacation, you know goal, you’re excited about it, you’ve got time off of work, everything’s rocking, you have this idea of expectation, or knowing or certainty, right? You just know it’s happening. Everything’s good to go. Time off of work is coordinated with your vacation, it’s recording with your plane ticket and hotels and cars or little moped, whatever you’re going to do on Hawaii.
Now I teach this analogy, because we can all relate to the cognitive motive experience of believing into the future. Having our beliefs manifest into the present. When you know something is going to happen in the future and it manifests in your present, you create that for yourself, you’re bringing that, that’s the universal truth. When you want to create something, when you have an intentional desire, an intentional result for the future. A part of that comes from knowing, you know it into reality, you know it into result. You manifest it from your knowing. We all believe that the sun will rise in the morning, tomorrow, right? Tomorrow morning, the sun will come up and behold it rises, we become certain of this and will continue to believe it and take it for granted until something major happens that will change it, but the truth is nothing is certain.
Especially not plane tickets, right? I use that analogy, but these plane tickets are not certain, anyone who bought a plane ticket in 2019 for a vacation that they were going to take in 2020 knows this firsthand. Am I right? I mean, if you guys know this, and you know this, I think COVID changed the way a lot of humans thought or think about what it means to be certain about things. I mean, right?
I mean certain about jobs, certain about rent payments, mortgage payments, whether you’re a renter, whether you’re a lessee or lessor, or can you be certain about whether that payment will be made? Or can you be certain about where that payment is coming in? School and education systems, can we be certain about whether the kids are going to school, when they’re going to school? How they’re going to school? How long they’re going to school? We don’t know, we assume this, we think that we know what the future is going to happen. We think that, yeah, the school year begins here, it ends here. Our kids are going to go from first grade, second grade third grade, up through, is this going to happen, it’s going to be –
This is the ‘normal’ we call it right? We say this is the new normal here, what is the new normal? Are we trying to be certain of this new normal? Is this normal, supposed to be certain and now we want to be certain of this new normal because the old normal we’re no longer certain of? Its truly wild when we think about the future, because before 2020, I would hear students of mine talk about how it was ‘safe’. You may believe this as well, but I would hear students telling me how to be safe, “it’s safe to be an employee”. It’s a risk to go out as an entrepreneur, because as an employee as a W-2, Someone who is an employee, either an hourly paid employee like on a salary, or an annual. You got this salary that comes annually, whatever. When it’s the W-2, there was this idea that it was safe to be an employee and it was a risk to go out there as an entrepreneur, because as an employee, you could always count on that paycheck. You could always count on that weekly, monthly paycheck, whatever it is.
After COVID. I stopped hearing that. After COVID, more and more people, students and non-students began to realize that certainty and security is truly, it’s a mental construct. That being an employee, being a W-2 salaried, or hourly employee provides no more certainty of your job or security than building your own business and being self-employed. The future is unknown and unknowable, certainty is not a necessity, nor a possibility brothers. As I just said, certainty is not a possibility. Is it truly impossible? Is it impossible to be certain of anything, is what we are seeking meant to be an endless search for the unattainable and I want to offer that there is a place that we can find certainty.
Thank you for hanging out for 20 minutes on this podcast episode to get to where we can find certainty, because you can always, always be certain of where, when and who you are. Brother, where you are, is here. Listen to me when I say this, I’m going to say, where, when and who you are. Where you are is here, here, not here with me as I record this in this space, but here or there is where you are in that space and in that time, I’ll get to now in a moment, but here, where you are is here, you are right here, you are not where your mind thinks you are, you are not in this place or that place, you are not in this story or that story.
This now, this here, this is where you are, where you are right there is certain, it is the perfection that is right in front of you. It has no labels, no titles, no identities, no pasts, no stories, nothing that carries with it, to bring a sense of certainty, because in the moment of where you are, that right here, or there as it were, as I’m speaking to you that right there is a totality of everything. You can be certain of all in where you are.
When you are is now. This is always right now, we are always right now, just like you’re always right here in space, you’re always right now in time, you are not where your mind thinks you are, you are not in the past or the future.
This moment is certain. It is the perfection that is right in front of you, in the here and the now, do you see this? That the here the now is all that you can be certain of in space, and in time, and you can be certain of who you are. This is the key brothers, this is the missing link. This is the self-knowledge that the masters of the past have taught for centuries. You see at every moment of time, you have a core, you have an anchor, and every moment of time just in the present moment, every space and time you have a core this ache or something within you that is 100 percent reliable that you can be certain about. This is your inner authority and truth. This is your energy mechanics and alpha state.
Now, this is where we begin to enter what I teach in the academy 2.0 program. I don’t want to breach this massive concept here at the end of the podcast episode. I only want to say that before getting into what you can rely on as a part of your alpha state, there is a phase of removing the conditioning that has dominated your not self-life for so long, that it takes time to really see and live into the truth of who you are and build the superpower you are meant to express in this life.
Brothers, first, number one, accept that you can’t be certain about that which does not exist. The past does not exist. You can’t be certain about what did or didn’t happen. The future doesn’t exist. You can’t be certain about what will or won’t happen. Accept this truth. Number one, accept this truth, accept that certainty of the past or future, accept that it isn’t possible or important that the certainty of the past of having certainty of the past or being certain of the future isn’t possible or important. Can we be certain of anything in the past? No. Does it matter? As it reflects upon us in the moment in the now? No, it does not. Can we be certain of anything in the future? No. Does it matter as it projects from the now? No, it does not, but here and now, in this moment here and now this moment is real.
It is the experience of life and is access through your alpha state it can only be accessed through your alpha state in the present moment, you can be certain, Brother. You can be certain of who you are when you decondition the stories of who you are not. This is the path of self-knowledge and the expression of the journey you are meant to experience as a human. There is nothing more you need to do. When you do this, everything will be clear for you. Knowledge of the self is the discovery of the path. When you understand this, you will be released from the matrix and you will be set free.
We’re talking certain. I’m telling you what you can be certain of, what you can be certain of is yourself. You can live in the joy, love, peace, and freedom of the now. The life you are meant to experience. This one right here, right now, the one you’re having right now, as you’re listening this podcast, not as I’m recording it. I’m living the life as I record it. You’re living the life as you hear it, because it’s only in the moment. The past is dead and tomorrow will take care of tomorrow. You’re here in the present, express that freedom with the only certainty that you can have. That you exist here and now and have a vehicle that drives you through a path that gives you experience. Be certain only of where you are, and rejoice in the perfection of what is being offered.
That is what I have for you today, brothers. Head over to thealphamalecoach.com and Enroll now to join the academy and begin the process of deconditioning, to discover your inner purpose, strategy, and authority. Brothers, in September we’re moving to 2.0. If you can enroll before September, you can gain access to that 2.0 program. All students enrolling in September and beyond will automatically be enrolled into the 1.0 program, and they will have time to go through that program until the 2.0 program opens up. The universal truth works and lives through us all. Learn how to work with this law, this law of cause and effect who bring more success, peace, and joy in your life. Until next week, my brother’s, elevate your alpha.
[OUTRO]
[00:26:05] ANNOUNCER: Thank you for listening to this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. If you enjoy what you’ve heard and want even more, sign up for Unleash Your Alpha: Your Guide to Shifting to the Alpha Mindset at thealphamalecoach.com/unleash.
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