Ep #16: Achieving Your Alpha State

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What’s up, my brothers. Welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. And I am your host, Kevin Aillaud. And today, we’re talking about the alpha state. The last three episodes, we talked about the beta condition as it manifests – by manifests, I mean as it shows up, the actions that occur from being in a beta state, being in a beta condition – around women, in relationships, around health, your physical health, with food and exercise, and then around wealth, which is like a money and business thing.

Those were the last three episodes. Today, we’re going to talk about the alpha state and how that’s different than the beta condition. Now, there’s a pretty big difference there, and I’m going to try to make this simple. But here’s the thing; before we do that, I’m going to let you in on something. I’m going to let you in on a little secret here.

This is the second recording of this episode. The first recording – what I do, guys, is I don’t script this. I don’t have an outline or anything like that. I take an idea, I think about something I want to talk to you guys about, that I want to teach you. And I think about it for a while, like I meditate on it, I think about it.

And I might write down one or two things that I want to make sure that I mention, like major teaching points. And then I record the episode and I send it away to my podcast editor, and he deals with it. So I don’t script it, I don’t bullet-point it. I just maybe note a little bit. There’s no outline, and then I don’t listen to it after it records. It just goes. It’s gone. It goes off and it gets edited.

And I get feedback from my guy. And my guy is a guy named Pavel. He runs his own podcast editing business; Digital Freedom Productions. We’ll put that in the show notes there. But he gives me some feedback, and this last time, he gave me feedback. He said, “You know what? I love your stuff, I really do. This time, it just was a little too much. It was a little bit too difficult to understand.”

And it is my job, guys. Like, I take that seriously. It is my job to make sure that you guys understand this stuff because you want to be able to apply it. There’s two things; there’s the knowledge of it, what it is, the understanding, and then there’s the application. It’s putting it to test, it’s applying it to your life.

And if you’re just listening to this stuff and you don’t know what it means, then it’s not going to help you out. So I’m taking this super complex stuff and I’m making it simple so you can apply it and live the best life that you can by unleashing your alpha, by elevating your alpha, by becoming your alpha self.

And the first time I recorded this, it was too much, so I’m doing this a second time, very quickly, so you guys know this is the second recording. And I agree with him. I agree with Pavel. This is complex stuff. It’s more complex than the beta stuff, and here’s why – we’re going to really quickly review beta condition and alpha state.

Beta condition is the sentences in your brain. That’s what the beta condition is. Now, it was created by you. Don’t get me wrong, like, you put them there. You weren’t born with these sentences in your head. You put them there because the circumstances that occurred throughout your life had to be coded.

They had to mean something to you. So, when you were a kid – and I do want to say childhood, because most of the way we view the world happens before we even hit puberty. Like, over 50% of our brain and how we view the world is done in our childhood. And you’ve already made it mean something, so you’ve coded this. You’ve coded the world.

And that is your beta condition. For a lot of people, it’s unconscious. For a lot of people, it just runs. Like, whatever they were told as kids has now determined their belief system as adults, and they just run it. They just run this belief system. For some people, it’s not unconscious. Some people do hear the words in their minds.

They do hear the sentences in their brain, but they don’t know that they have control over that. They don’t know that those sentences – one, those sentences are not who they are. That it’s just words. And number two, that those sentences are optional, that they’re not truth, they are literally just words running through your brain, like somebody just whispering to you.

Now, condition is made up of fear and it’s made up of scarcity. And because it’s made up of fear, it’s made up of scarcity, it can be predictable. We can look at certain manifestations. We can say, okay, this is the thought that leads to the emotion that creates the action. And that’s what I did the last three episodes. We looked at different manifestations from different thoughts that the brain has with women, with health, and with wealth; so with these three circumstances that we deal with in life.

Okay, guys, fear holds you back. So fear, that beta condition – that’s why, with those last three episodes, the fear is what is holding you back and the brain is intentionally holding you back with the beta condition in order to keep you safe. Now, that’s why we can look at beta condition and we can look at the manifestations.

We can say, okay, when you want to feel safe, this is how you behave. This episode is about the alpha state. To say this very succinctly, very simply, the alpha state is the knowledge of and the alignment with the universal truth, which is to say living by the model, which is to say living by the universal truth and living by the model. Now, guys, I’m going to review that and just give you some real quick examples, because it’s different than the beta condition.

The beta condition, we can point to manifestations. But here’s the thing, here’s the universal truth again; circumstances are neutral. All circumstances are neutral. Other people, the past, the world around you, just looking out into the world around you right now, whether you’re driving – be careful if you’re driving, but whether you’re walking, whether you’re sitting, standing, whatever you’re doing, but just look around you.

Everything you see, whether it’s trees, grass, sidewalk, lights, cars, people, desks, whatever you see is all just energy. It’s all just molecular. What we see with our senses is what we code in our brain and we make it mean something. It is this thought that we have about what we see that then determines, for us, how we’re going to feel.

It creates a chemical. It creates an emotion. Emotions drive our actions and our actions create our results. That’s the cause and effect; actions create results. When you know that, you’re kind of on that path, you start to say, that’s knowledge, knowing that, and then being able to apply it, being able to live that way.

So, not just knowing that circumstances are neutral and that you can think and feel and behave however you want in any circumstance, but starting to live that way. What happens is that shift where the beta condition is, “I am in this condition and I have to decide how I’m going to behave in this condition.” The alpha state is, “It doesn’t matter the condition, it doesn’t matter the circumstance. The circumstance around me is going to be what it’s going to be and this is how I’m going to be in it, regardless of it.”

So, the alpha state, you are determining how you’re going to be regardless of the condition. You’re determining yourself ahead of time. You’re showing up as that alpha, as you, regardless of what the circumstance is, because the circumstance doesn’t matter, it’s neutral anyway. And that beta condition is allowing the circumstance to decide which sentence is going to run in the brain and living according to the circumstance.

So, it’s kind of changing who you are based on the circumstance because you’re going to do whatever the sentences in your brain tell you. That’s the beta condition. Now, again, that alpha is that move. It’s that shift. So, you are in charge of what’s happening.

So the circumstance is always going to be the same, whether you’re in alpha or whether you’re in beta, but as alpha, you are the same and you’re not going to change who you are. You are the same in all circumstances. So really, it’s being successful in all circumstances regardless of all circumstances. And not just when you have the knowledge of the universal truth, but when you’re in alignment with it, when you can be in that state with it, then really, what the alpha state is, is the best version of yourself.

And that’s where we get to with the coaching that I do, with success coaching, with confidence coaching, is it’s really just the best version of yourself. And when we start to look at that a little deeper and we say, well, with the beta condition, you were able to say it looks like this, it behaves like this, you were able to show manifestations. With the alpha state, we’re not doing that.

And you’re absolutely right; we don’t do that. We don’t do that because the alpha state behavior, the actions, the results, is going to be different for every single person. It’s going to be different for every single guy because only you know what’s best for you. Only you will know what your alpha state is.

We know that a beta condition is going to be wrapped in fear and survival. We know it’s going to prevent you from being your best self. What we don’t know is what your best self looks like when you show up this way, because, truthfully, you’re limitless. The truth is that there is no limit, so we could never really say, well this is what it looks like at the apex, at the top, when you’re the best of your best of your best it looks like this. I’d never say that.

You’d never be able to say that and measure it because you’re going to keep pushing through that ceiling. That alpha state will drive you to continue to push through that limit, that ceiling, that next place and you’ll be onto the next goal.

Here’s another example; I used to be a fitness coach and different bodies, different human beings are all going to squat differently based on anatomy, anatomy of the legs, anatomy of the spine, anatomy of the feet and the ankles, where you place your feet, how you push your hips back, how the knees track and so on. There’s a lot of different nuances that go along with the squat. There’s going to be different squats for different people that are going to maximize that movement.

And even though everybody’s going to have a little bit different, they’re all going to be able to progress the more they do the squat and the more they learn how to squat properly. Now, that being said, I can tell you that no matter who you are, there are going to be ways that you don’t want to squat, right? Like, it doesn’t matter what kind of legs you have, how long your legs are, what your ankles are like, where you put your feet. I’m going to tell you that there are certain things you definitely don’t want to do when you’re squatting.

And it’s the same with alpha state and beta condition. For you to live in your alpha state, for you to live with your best version of yourself, I don’t know what that looks like because we have to coach on that. We go into that. We start to investigate the brain and find out what thought works best to create the emotion that’s going to drive your actions and behaviors to elicit the best results that you can get, because only you know that.

When it comes to beta condition, we can say, well, based on fear, we have an idea what that looks like, and it looks like this. So we can tell what beta condition looks like when it manifests in behavior, but with alpha state, it’s more elusive, it’s more personal, it’s more private. The alpha state is more personal and private to you, your desires. But that’s what we know. We know that it’s the best version of yourself, and we know how to get there.

We know how to get there, which is to know the truth. Number one, know the truth, which is, in and of itself, a paradigm shift, to know that what is going on in the world, what’s going on in your past, what’s going on with other people does not affect you. It does not affect you at all.

The only thing that affects you ever is how you choose to think about it. How you choose to think about it – how powerful is that? How successful can you be if you just know that? And just know it – I’m not even saying apply it; just know it.

You know that no matter what anybody says, no matter what anybody does, no matter whatever they did or didn’t do, whatever happened or didn’t happen in the past, no matter what’s happening right now around the world or in the world has nothing to do with you and your life. It has nothing to do with your ability to have amazing relationships, create massive wealth, and achieve maximum fitness. And this is the alpha state. This is knowing.

Now, applying and living it is a process. Applying and living it – that is where we get into the coaching. That’s where we get into the training. That’s where we get into living in your alpha. And again, how does that look, guys? It looks different for everybody. But the alpha state is your cognitive mastery. It is your ability to take control of your mind, utilizing your mind management and live the life you were supposed to live.

But that’s totally up to you. That’s totally up to you, brother. And that’s the thing – we could take any one of these, alpha state for women, alpha state for one guy might be going out on a date with a different woman every night, sleeping with three or four women a night – I say a night… a week. Maybe it’s a night, who knows? It’s not for me to say. Maybe it is. Maybe that’s what he wants and that is his alpha state. But the idea is to get over the fear of not having that.

Another guy might be just to find the woman of his dreams. It might be to get married and have kids and have a wonderful amazing relationship as a family. So two different guys, different wants, and so because they have different desires of the life that they want to create, even if they were to both be in their alpha state, it would have very different outcomes. Same thing with wealth – you might have a guy who says, “For me, I want to set a goal of I want to make a million dollars in a year. That’s my goal. I’m going to use my alpha state to create my results…” that’s what he’s going to go for. He’s going to shoot for a million dollars a year.

Another guy might say, “You know what – I just want to make $100,000 in a year and I want to live in three countries every year. So I want to make $100,000 and I want to be able to travel; I want to be mobile.” And for him, to be wealthy, for him, that is his alpha state. You can see how they manifest differently, even though it is cognition creating result.

A great book on this one, I want to leave this out there – maybe we could put this in the show notes as well, is Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill. I mean, the model is in there, you know. It’s almost like the first chapter is thought, the second chapter is emotion, desire, he talks about. Think and Grow Rich, I highly recommend you guys go check that out, creating the result of massive wealth through cognition.

You know, health is very different as well. For one person, health may be losing 100 pounds, losing 50 pounds, 100 pounds, just shedding the body fat, getting back to a state where you’re not insulin dependent, you know, if you’re type-two diabetic. That might be your health.

For another guy, it might be chasing a two-times bodyweight dead-lift, you know, or a two-times bodyweight bench-press. You know, it might be some sort of goal like that.

So, guys. The alpha state here is very different from the beta state in that it’s not predictive. It’s not predictable, whereas the beta’s condition, we could say this is very predictable. It’s based on survival. It’s based on fear. It’s based on scarcity. We can say this is how you might be behaving if you’re thinking this way, in this beta condition.

But the alpha state – the manifestations are unpredictable because there’s whatever you want, brother. That’s the thing; it’s whatever you want. It’s like learning a language. It’s like learning a foreign language. It’s like learning how to dance. It’s like learning a skill set. The first thing you have to do is learn how to do it.

You’ve got to learn, like, for example, riding a bike. The first thing you’ve got to do is you’ve got to look at the bike and say, “Look, how do I work this thing? What do I do? Okay, well here’s the handlebars. It’s going to turn it, turn it right, turn it left. Here are the peddles, you know, you press on these things. It’s connected to the pulley and the gear and it makes the wheels go.

You’ve got to learn how it works. You’ve got to look at it. You’ve got to understand it intellectually. That’s the universal truth. You’ve got to understand the universal truth. You’ve got to know this. You’ve got to know how life works. You’ve got to look through your eyes and stop seeing what you’re thinking, stop seeing the relationship you have with your thoughts and start seeing the truth.

The truth is, you’re looking at the matrix. The truth is, you’re looking at data. You’re looking at molecules. You’re looking at atoms. You’re looking at cells. You’re looking at very tiny, tiny things you can’t see that are creating light and shadow and distance and the things that you do see; texture and so on, sounds. But that’s number one; you’ve got to know the truth.

Once you know the truth, we start to apply the truth, then you start living it, and that is where your life starts to change. That’s where things really shift. That’s where you go from that beta condition, living with the sentences in your mind running the show, to the alpha state.

My teacher, he likes to call the beta condition a child with a knife; an unsupervised child with a knife, you know, running around in your life. Maybe the kid’s not going to do anything. Maybe the kids not going to hurt nobody. Maybe we’re going to get to him in time to take the knife from him.

But, there’s a lot of potential for that kid to do some damage to himself and other people. When you start supervising your mind, start supervising that kid, he doesn’t get a hold of the knife, right? You’re in control. You get to decide how you want that brain to think. Practice, time, you are in control. Your alpha state determines your reality.

And you get to start to be the best version of yourself. That is the difference between the beta condition and the alpha state. Now, guys, I know that I have been hitting you with some pretty conceptual stuff. And next week, I’m going to tone it back. Next week, I’m going to cut it back a little bit. I’m going to make some comparisons. I think you guys are going to enjoy the comparisons.

I’m going to try make this stuff – not understandable, I know you guys get it. We’re going to have some fun; let’s put it that way. I want to kind of open this up for you guys and see if we can get some dialogue going to see – we’ll just take some votes; let’s put it that way.

Things you can do until next week – here’s something you can do; you can leave a rating or review on iTunes. I’ve said that before. You guys can do that. You can also go to the website, thealphamalecoach.com and you can join the newsletter.

The newsletter would be awesome for you to do because I release it more than once a week. Podcasts come out once a week. It definitely lets you know when those come out. You should be subscribed anyway so you can get those automatically. But go to the newsletter, and those come out more than once a week. You guys can hear from me a lot more often.

And, quite frankly with those newsletters too, they’re a little bit more personal. They start to get a bit more personal. It starts to talk about exactly what I’m doing every day to be a better version of myself. Yeah guys, like every day, you’ve got to do something, whether it comes to health, whether it comes to wealth, whether it comes to relationships, always be improving. That is the alpha male way.

So, you can do that. Go to the website and get on that mailing list. You can also go to the website and sign up for a 30-minute consultation with me to see if joining the Elevated Alpha Society or getting on The System is going to work for you – a couple of programs I offer. But you can do that at thealphamalecoach.com.

Guys, I appreciate this week, you hanging with me, and finishing up the episode on the alpha state. Until next week, when we’re going to demystify the realm of superheroes, as always guys, elevate your alpha. I’ll see you next week.

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