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You might feel some immediate resistance to the statement in the title of this episode: you can never do anything wrong. I realize it’s a bold statement to make, my brothers, but as you’ll discover today, creation acts like a cosmic mirror that is always offering us the image of ourselves and the pain we are suffering from so that we can see it, so that we can become conscious of it, and so that we can heal from it. That is the lesson of creation and that is why you can never make the wrong choice; because the universe will always teach you. The universe will always love you.
A student of mine once asked me how he knew that he was making the right choice and, brothers, I’m going to tell you what I told him: the point of life is not to get anywhere. It’s to notice that you are already there. You are always and forever in the moment of pure creation. The point of life is to remember and create who and what you are, and then to experience that fully. Remember, when presented with a decision, the alpha is the one who always comes up with the same answer, and that answer is always the highest choice.
In this way, the alpha is completely predictable. An easy way to measure your progress on the journey to elevating your alpha is to simply notice how reliably you make the highest choice when responding or reacting to any situation. Now, you may be asking: what is the highest choice? Well, brothers, just by asking yourself that question, you’re already on your way to elevating your alpha state.
Listening in, you’ll learn more about choosing love over fear, abundance over scarcity, and making decisions that result in the highest good for you. A final reminder: you can’t do anything wrong. You can only learn from the choices you make. Tune in today to find out more!
What You’ll Learn from This Episode:
- You can’t make the wrong choice when you accept the lessons creation reflects back at you.
- The alpha will reliably make the highest choice when responding to any situation.
- Why this is the only question that matters to your alpha state: what would love do now?
- How the principle of love-sponsored action is widely misunderstood.
- The profound, esoteric truth of loving yourself first.
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[00:00:09] ANNOUNCER: Welcome to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, the only podcast that teaches men the cognitive mastery and alpha mindset that it takes to become an influential and irresistible man of confidence.
Here’s your host, certified life coach and international man of mystery, Kevin Aillaud.
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[00:00:32] KA: What’s up, my brothers? Welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. I am your host, Kevin Aillaud, and I’m in Mexico. Been here for just over a week, and I’ve been hit with Montezuma’s revenge. You know, brothers? If you remember from the energy mechanics series, I have a defined spleen, which is the energy center of time-fear intuition and wellbeing.
Now having this energy center defined in terms of well-being or in the immune system, means that I don’t get sick very often. I may get the flu once every five or six years and I may get a cold every three years. However, and here’s the thing with the defined spleens, once we do get sick, once I get sick, I go down for the count. Whereas the open spleens get sick often and recover quickly, I will get sick very rarely, and it takes weeks to recover. I tend to hibernate when I get ill. This minor water contamination or food-borne illness or whatever I’ve received here in Mexico has taken nearly a week to recover from.
In fact, when I recorded last week’s podcast, I was healthy, but it was the day or two after I started getting this illness, this nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, and I have it today. It’s been nearly a week and I am still in the throes of it. Now, needless to say, I haven’t had much time to explore Puerto Escondido. However, I will keep you posted when I get the opportunity to do so. Now the episode had – that’s a great way to start the podcast right guys? I’m sick and I’ve been in the bathroom most of the time here in Mexico.
Now, the episode today is from a derivative of a lesson I learned while in the Amazon and I told you all that I will, little by little, reveal the mysteries of what I learned while living in the jungle. Although today, I want to open with something that didn’t come directly from my time there. It came from meditations on the lessons that I learned in the jungle after I left. You see everything in creation, all of the universe is a reflection. It’s a reflection of ourselves, it’s a mirror, it is a reflection of you. Of course this is true because we are all one, you are one with the universe, you are one with all creation, you and I are one, just as all of creation is one with you and with me. It’s like walking through a world of mirrors.
Everything is a mirror. Everything is reflecting back to us who we are and who we’re choosing to be in that moment. It’s like Rumi said, “You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” Everything is within you brother, the plants, the flowers, the trees, the animals, the birds, and the bees. Human relationships are unique and special. In that, they have the greatest reflective properties and of course, the more intimate the relationship, the more opportunity for reflecting back to you, who you are, and who you’re choosing to be in that moment.
When it comes to relationships with people, especially our most intimate relationships, I will go deeper into that in next week’s podcast episode. This week, I’m going to offer you something that I know plagues all of you. Brothers, I’m just going to make the statement and I made the statement, the title of this episode, I want you to know that you can’t do anything wrong. I know that’s a bold statement. I know that by hearing that. You may disagree. There might be immediate resistance to that statement. How can you say I can’t do anything wrong? What about blame? What if it’s somebody else’s fault? What if it’s my fault? What if I make a mistake? Or what about mistakes, coach? What about fault? How do we assess fault? How do we blame? How do we save this person’s going to cause? Mistake, wrong choices, how do I know I can never make a wrong choice? How do I know when I’m making the right choice?
Decision paralysis, brothers. This plague so much of us. We sit there with a decision to make about what to do, where to go, who to see. In this decision paralysis, we’re always conflicted with the right choice. How do we make the right choice? How do we avoid the wrong choice? It’s a perfectionist dilemma. That’s why I wanted to offer this episode to all of you today because creation is always reflecting back. Creation is the mirror. We see ourselves in all of it. We are one with creation. We see ourselves. Creation, there is no other than, that’s the great illusion.
That’s the mystery. The mystery of the universe around us, the mystery of creation is everything. The Computer, the phone, whatever, whatever it is, you’re listening to this podcast on, whether it’s an iTunes phone, whether it’s a Google phone, you’re listening to Spotify, whether it’s a computer, whether you’re sitting in your car, the car itself. When you’re going to work your relationship with your job, your relationship with the place you live, you’re in a relationship with people with things with places. It’s all just a mirror.
The mirror comes through thoughts, the way you choose to think. Remember, we are not in a relationship with people and things. We’re in a relationship with our thoughts about people and things and that is a reflection of us. That is the reflection of who we are. The way we think about others tells us nothing about them and everything about us. It’s all the level one stuff being brought into an accumulation, so you can see the truth of it all, because we get to choose. The first thing we need to do is remember. We need to remember who we are. We need to remember that we’re not our body, we’re not our mind. Our body is our vehicle, our mind is our tool.
We are not these things. These things are a part of us. They’re a part of our human experience. It’s not who we are. There are things that we use to experience this human life. The first thing is to remember who we are. We are beings or human beings in this form, but we are eternally beings. As beings, we are energies, energies of light, energies of love. When we remember that we can begin to choose, we can begin to use our bodies as vehicles and use our minds as tools of creation, to choose from moment to moment, as they pass. Remember time, time is another illusion, there is no past.
I was talking to a potential student, who’s on a consultation call. We were talking about the past. He was saying, “You know, I did a lot of therapy.” This is my contention with therapy brothers. You guys know, I have a contention with therapy, because therapists take you into the past, they take you to the past and try to work out your problems by looking at your past. Well, that’s never going to work. Why? Because the past is dead, there’s nothing in the past that you can learn from. The past will bring you nothing, because the past is dead. It’s looking at a corpse and trying to find life. There’s nothing there. There’s only the way you think about your past in this moment. That’s what you want to discover. That’s what you want to know, because the awareness of what you’re thinking now is what’s important. Not about what happened or why it happened or when it happened, or why you think what you do.
You just think it. You think it now that’s all that matters. There’s nothing in your past and your future is yet to be created. That’s the power of the mind. That’s the power of the tool of creation. It’s the moment that matters, it’s the present moment. We get to choose from moment to moment how we want to see ourselves in creation, in relationship with creation, in relationship with other people, other things, other places. That’s the beauty of distance. That’s the beauty of separation.
Separation itself is the illusion. We are all one, but we get to use that separation to reflect back, in a mirrored form, who we choose to be. How we want to show up. How we want to be. How we want to demonstrate our highest self in this form. Creation is always offering us the image of ourselves, and the pain we are suffering from so that we can see it, so that we can become conscious of it, so that we can heal from it. That is the lesson of creation. That’s why we’re constantly cycling through. That’s why all of us are going through the same thing over and over and over and over again. That’s why you can never make the wrong choice.
I’m going to tell you something, brothers. I’m going to offer you an example from one of my students. I’m not going to give you the name of this student, of course, I don’t do that. I’m just going to give you an example from working with him. He was in a relationship and he was in a relationship with a woman, right? A very long-term relationship. He ended up finding out that she was actually with another guy. The key was the other man, right? He was the mister, the male mistress. He was upset about that. He’s like, “What’s the deal?” Because she was lying to him, she wasn’t telling him the truth, but she was doing all these things.
During this time, and this relationship was constantly was – it was causing him a lot of pain. He ended the relationship when he found out she was with another man, but he maintained friends with her. By maintaining friends with her, he was caring about her relationship with this guy. They were still flirting, because they still had connection, they still had chemistry, there was still something going on energetically between the two of them. So over the course of as friendship that followed the more intimate relationship, there’s always this pain, always this suffering. So, of course, he’s now working his student and he’s working with me and he asked me during one of our calls, he says, “What do you think, coach? What do I do? Do I just block her completely? Do I set this boundary up and just block her and get her out of my life completely? Or do I maintain this friendship, this relationship, in order to reflect back” – essentially, what I’m offering you guys now in this podcast – “in order to reflect back more of what I need to see in my life. More of what I need to see in myself, so I can heal from it.”
I told him, “It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter, brother. It doesn’t matter what you do. You can’t do anything wrong.” Name of the podcast, you can never do anything wrong, because I’m going to tell you this, the universe will always teach you. The universe will always love you. If you stay with this woman, that she will continue to be your mirror, you will continue to see in her what it is you need to see in yourself, so that you can learn to heal from whatever pain you’re suffering from.
If you choose to complete the relationship and move on, then the universe will offer you a new mirror, maybe a woman, maybe a man, maybe another form of which for you to see the exact same pain. It doesn’t matter, the exact same sickness, the exact same ailment, the exact same thing that you’re suffering from, so that you can heal from it. It doesn’t matter what you do, you can choose to keep her as a mirror, or you can choose to find a new mirror, but it’s always going to be a mirror. It’s always going to be you that you see in creation. It is always going to be you that you engage with. You can’t make the wrong choice.
I have another student. Another student says to me, because he made this great leap, this great, momentous leap, and I call this the momentous leap in the academy. In fact, this is the point of the academy. I think I’ve mentioned this to all of you brothers before. The point of the academy is to make the momentous leap from fear to love, from scarcity to abundance, from knowledge to experience, from recognizing judgment to transcending judgment, right? Because there’s this leap, there’s human beings are living in their minds. There’s always an us versus them mentality. To make this momentous leap, there’s no longer is an us versus them mentality. There’s just a oneness mentality. We are all one. We are all the same. There is no us in them, right? There’s just one.
Our brother here, he taking this job, he’s taking this leap, and he says, “Okay, I think I’m starting to figure it out, coach, but my question is, what’s the point?” If we’re all one, if nothing matters?” You know, the examples he gave were, “If nothing matters in terms of sex, right? In terms of sex, there’s no pursuit, there’s no purpose of pursuit. There’s no purpose of money, right? There’s no purpose of success in terms of money or fame or fortune, or notoriety or accomplishment, achievement? Because again we’re all one, what’s the point?”
He was asking, “How do when you’re making the right choice?” Wild question, right? Big question, very esoteric question. I tell him – I’m going to tell you guys, what I told him. Brothers, the point of life is not to get anywhere. The point of life is not to have more sex, be with more women, make more money, gain more fame, achieve more accomplishments. That’s not the point. The point of life is not to get anywhere; it’s to notice that you are, and always have been, already there. You are always and forever in the moment of pure creation. The point of life is to remember and create who and what you are, and then to experience that.
Remember, who you are is light and love and creating love within you and around you. Look brothers, in the moment of decision, when in the time of choice, the alpha is the one who always comes up with the same answer. That answer is always the highest choice. In this, the alpha is eminently predictable. I told you this, and you guys know this, it’s so wild, because it’s even on my website. It’s the alpha is consistent, constant in every situation of life. Circumstances do not matter. Whatever you are presented with, you’re always the same. It’s the beta that vacillates back and forth, based on their situation, based on their circumstance.
The master is predictable, the beta is completely unpredictable. You can tell how you are doing on the road of elevating your alpha by simply noticing how predictably you make the highest choice in responding or reacting to any situation. Now, I’ve said it, and you’re probably asking the question, what is the highest choice? I mean, look, if the name of the podcast is you can never do anything wrong, then it may seem as though I’m offering you the right choice and I’m not. I’m not offering you a right choice, or I’m not saying that there is a wrong choice. What I’m saying is you can never do anything wrong.
It’s a question. I mean, I know it sounds paradoxical, but it’s a question that has been revolving around philosophies and theologies ever since the beginning of time. You can find these questions being asked everywhere. If the question truly engages you. If this question matters to you, then you’re already on your way to elevating your alpha state, because it’s true that a lot of people are engaged with another question altogether. They’re not asking themselves, what’s the highest choice? They’re asking themselves, which choice is the most profitable for me? Or how can I lose the least? You see brothers when life is live from a standpoint of damage control or optimum advantage, then the true benefit of life is lost. It’s completely forfeited. Opportunity is lost, chances are missed.
It’s not that you’re doing something wrong. It’s just that the universe is going to reflect that decision back to you. It’s going to show you the decision you’re making, and that will cause you pain and suffering, because it is made from the beta condition, it’s made from the not self-mind. Because a life live this way, a life live from fear, essentially, is a life that speaks a lie about you. Because you are not fear. Fear is the illusion, fear is the lie. You are love. That’s the remembering part. To remember that you are love, love needs no protection, love cannot be lost. You are the type of love that lives eternally in an infinite time.
Yet, you will never know this in your experience, in your life, if you’re continually answering the question, how can I make a choice that is most profitable for me? Or how can I make a choice where I lose the least? Because a person who thinks that there is something to gain or lose in life will always ask that question. That’s the illusion. There’s nothing to gain. You have everything you need right here. It’s already here. It’s always been here for you. Only a person who sees life in this new way, this alpha state, who sees life as a higher being, who remembers who they are and understands that winning and losing is not the test. You cannot win or lose.
The only test, and it’s not even a test. What it is is an experience. The only thing you have here is loving and failing to love. That is the essence of life. That is the human experience. That’s the purpose of human experience, is choosing love or choosing something other than love, because the person who asks the question: how can I lose the least? They’re living through their beta condition. They’re living through the false sense of the outer world. They’re living through the realm of form and matter, density, molecules.
The person who asks the other question, what is the highest choice? What feels most like love? They remember who they are. They are living as their true self, their alpha state. Here’s the thing, all human relationships, whether it’s a relationship with a person, which I’ll go into much deeper next week, whether it’s a relationship with a place or a thing. The highest question you can ask yourself when making a choice. – again, you can never do anything wrong. I’m going to say that emphatically. You can’t make the wrong choice, because whatever choice you make, the universe will just reflect it back to you.
If you make the choice to ask yourself the question, how can I lose the least? Then the universe will reflect that back to you in the mirror of response. But from what you get from that reflection, is what you will either see in others and blame and fault and accuse and judge or you will begin to see in yourself and you will begin to wake up and realize that it is you who have the power of creation, that is you who are making the results and creating the results in your life. Then you will begin to ask the other question, which is what would love do now? What feels most like love? Because it is you, brother, it is you that are creating your outer world through your inner world. You are essentially looking into a mirror in all things. Whatever mirror you choose you to look into is what you will experience back from that mirror.
If you’re asking yourself, how can I gain or not lose from this situation? That will be reflected back to you and you will find pain and suffering in your choice. It’s not the wrong choice. You can’t do anything wrong. You can only learn from that, that this doesn’t feel like love. That experience may wake you up or it may perpetuate and you’ll seek further blame and faults. In others or in yourself, say, “I made a mistake, I caused this to happen.” The truth is the only question that matters – There’s no other question that is relevant or meaningful. No other question has any importance to your alpha state, other than what would love do now?
Now with 20 minutes in the podcast, I’m going to go a little bit deeper. I’m going to push us. I’m going to push you guys a little bit deeper, because there’s more for you to know, because we come across a very delicate point of interpretation. I know that the principle of love-sponsored action has been widely misunderstood, widely misunderstood. In this misunderstanding is a basically lead people to resentments, when you misunderstand the question of what would love do now? What feels most like love? It’s led to misunderstanding, it’s led to anger, which in turn has caused people to deviate even further from love, because we’ve been taught – at least I’ve been taught. I don’t know if you’ve been taught I was taught this as a child and I’ve since realized it was all incorrect, right? It was all backwards thinking.
I was always taught that love-sponsored action arises out of the choice to be do or have whatever produces the highest good for another person. I’m going to tell you this, I’m going to make this bold statement right here right now. The highest choice is that which produces the highest good for you; for you, brother. You make the choice that feels most love to you. When you do that, when you make the choice that feels most love to you, you are simultaneously making the choice that feels most like love for everyone, because when you are in a state of love, you are emanating that. You are attracting that. You are demonstrating that. You are loving all of creation as creation loves all of you. You are one with creation. This is a profound spiritual truth.
The master himself said, “Love others as you love yourself.” He didn’t say, “Love others before you love yourself.” He said, “Love others as you love yourself.” You must love yourself first. You must make the choice that feels like love for you. This is the mystery, the absolute highest choice is made, the mystery dissolves, the circle completes itself, and the highest good for you becomes the highest good for another.
Now, you may not understand that in this lifetime, it may take lifetimes for you to understand this, because this truth tends to revolve around an even greater one. What you do for yourself, you do for another. What you do for another you do for yourself. This is true, as I’ve said so many times, because you and the other are one. There is no separation. When you love yourself, you are loving the other, when you negate yourself, when you forget yourself in order to love another in hopes that they will love you back, in hopes that you can gain something, here we are, back to how can I profit from this? You see how the question gets twisted when you try to love another before yourself? You must love yourself. This is true because there is nothing but you. You are one with all. All is one with you.
If you think that there is something outside of your body, then you’re living in the illusion. I’ve said then on this podcast, there are mirrors outside of you, reflecting back to who you are, but that’s an analogy my friend. There’s no mirror. The mirror is just you showing you, you, because it is you, you are you. You see in yourself – you see in other people yourself. Another Rumi quote is, “I am you, in love with myself” or “I am you in love with yourself.” The reflection of that is you are me in love with myself, because that’s what we are. We are all one, loving ourselves through each other, loving each other through ourselves.
Every single spiritual and philosophical master that has ever walked this planet has always said this exact same thing. Yet it has remained a mystery for most people, merely because it is such a grand, esoteric truth. However, brothers, I want you to know that no matter how deeply mystical it is, it has the most applicable esoteric truth of all time and is important in relationships to remember this truth for without it, relationships would be very difficult. That, my friends, is what I’m going to get into next week when we go deep into the relationships between human beings, especially our most intimate relationships, the relationships we have with women, with our most sexual and intimate and romantic and loving partnerships that we form in this human experience.
The Academy is the place you will find this experience. Brothers, I know you have taken this information in and have gained all of the knowledge. So many podcasts, I’ve been doing podcasts over the last three years. I built up for you a system of developing cognitive mastery, emotional ownership, mental emergence, and energy mechanics. You have moved together with me. We have moved from the mysticism of the mind to the science of the spirit. There are so much more to come. I’m telling you this podcast could never end I could teach this podcast for the rest of my life.
However, in order to bridge the gap between knowledge and experience I’ve offered you all the Academy and the tribe. These programs are how to take the knowledge you have learned and begin to apply them to your life so that you can have an actual experience of how they work. There is a big gap between knowledge and experience. You can understand something and still not have an experience of it. It’s like riding a bike. It’s like shooting a gun or breathing underwater.
Look, brothers, you can study and learn about these things, right? I know you can understand the mechanics of how a bicycle works. You can understand the physics of a firearm, and you can understand the science of a scuba rig. However, without the existential experience of riding a mountain bike down a 30 percent grade at 40 miles per hour, or shooting a rifle and a pistol during an IDPA competition, or being 30 meters subsurface exploring a shipwreck off the coast of Aruba, then you really don’t have any idea what any of these activities are like.
This is what the Academy and the tribe offer you. All of the knowledge you’ve learned on this podcast brought into an experience in your life. That is the difference. Now, there is a difference between these two, there’s a difference between the Academy and the tribe, which I will go into deep more deeply into another podcast. For now, I just want to offer that when you are ready to take your knowledge to the level of experience, go to thealphamalecoach.com and enroll in the Academy. Brother, there is no application or consultation required. I’m accepting all new students who want to begin their journey of self-remembrance and self-creation. That’s what I have for you today, my friends. Until next week. Elevate your alpha.
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[00:26:06] ANNOUNCER: Thank you for listening to this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. If you enjoy what you’ve heard and want even more, sign up for Unleash Your Alpha: Your Guide to Shifting to the Alpha Mindset at thealphamalecoach.com/unleash.
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