In this final installment of the belief series Kevin goes into his experience of radical change from victim (beta) to the alpha mindset. The progressive change of thought patterns that were the building blocks of the model.
We won’t be going into the details behind this, as Kevin explained this on other podcasts. We’re going to look at how the mind shifted both slowly, and quickly from beta to alpha.
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What You’ll Learn From this Episode:
- How to use Kevin’s thought patterns to elevate your own alpha thinking
- Why we do not “sabotage” ourselves, we REVEAL ourselves. We can use this understanding to enhance our cognition.
- How to believe the impossible through meeting the universal truth.
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Speaker 1:
Welcome to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, the only podcast that teaches men the cognitive mastery and alpha mindset that it takes to become an influential and irresistible man of confidence. Here’s your host, certified life coach and international man of mystery, Kevin Aillaud.
Kevin Aillaud:
What’s up my brothers. Welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast. I am your host, Kevin Aillaud. Before we even get into this episode, I want to let you know that next week I am going to release a three part series that I am calling Training for Chaos, to help you get through really what is going on currently in the global circumstance. If you know we had that global C line, and we’ve got that pandemic. Then this series is exactly what that is for, because no matter what happens, you are always in control of what you think and how you feel. By extension, you are always in control of how you act because your actions are driven by emotions. But I want to get into this episode now, and this episode is called Believing Hard Things. So I want to explain that for just a moment.
Kevin Aillaud:
See, believing hard things is what I would call my super power. If we all have a super power, I believe, and this is a belief of course. I believe my superpower is that I can believe hard things. I can believe things that most people, other people would have a difficult time even thinking about. Would have a difficult time even coming up with. That super power, that thing that has always been with me that relativism or that skepticism or that curiosity or that multiple perspective. Really what it is is that in any given circumstance, I can think about and not just think about, but really feel what multiple, what different perspectives, how different perspectives would observe and be engaged. Experience that circumstance so I can have multiple experiences from a single circumstance based on my ability to believe hard things. Believing hard things is going to conclude the March theme on believing new things, but here’s the thing.
Kevin Aillaud:
This is the second version of this episode, which is actually completely different than the first. The first version that I recorded of this episode was on believing hard things, and I wanted to go deeper with you guys. I wanted to talk to you more about something that I was asked when I was recently interviewed on another podcast. I was on a podcast called the Brojo Online Podcast by my buddy Dan Munro. He’s out in New Zealand and he’s a confidence coach as well. He asked me during the interview about how I came to recognize or came to feel, know the alpha. Like elevate my alpha. How did I make the momentous leap from matter to being. Having the attachment to the external to being able to determine the external via the internal, like the process of determining cognition.
Kevin Aillaud:
I’ve discussed with you guys my history, the history of mine in earlier episodes of this podcast, but I haven’t told you exactly what happened for me when I made that radical cognitive change that led me to the universal truth, the alpha state and my passion for teaching the same process to all of you. So for this episode, I’m really going to take you on a road trip down a cosmic highway, if you will. If you’ll go with me on this, of this metamorphosis from that victim. That victim, fear-based, scarcity driven safety fling beta condition, to the super position. To the super position of the alpha state where everything and anything is possible at all times. It seems appropriate at this time to draw you a picture of the cognitive and spiritual struggle I went through, just given the current state that so many humans are going through today.
Kevin Aillaud:
I’m not going to give any details on what the circumstances are, other than to say that I had stripped myself of all form of identity. The details of the circumstances are in my buddy’s podcast. So to know what my life conditions were that led up to this experience, that’s more in his podcast. But what I want to talk to you about are the results. The results that I was there. I was stripped, empty and alone in my spirit and in my mind. I had listened, I had been through all the explanations. I had all the knowledge, all the thoughts. I’d had all the experiences. You’d go and you’re retested. You had this belief of what you should and should not do, right? You have the teachings, you have the knowledge. You have the path, the self-discovery. The self-knowledge, the way to know yourself. I said due to my life conditions at the time I said, “Okay, I’m getting rid of all that. I’m done with all that. I’m leaving all of that behind.”
Kevin Aillaud:
I left behind all the knowledge, all the thinking, all the experience and explanations. All the causes that man has created as a human being, and I just left all that. Discarded it, got rid of it. So I am not my mind. It’s not the same mind, and there’s a radical shift happening here. When I discard all of this, when all of this goes away, my mind has changed. Not slightly understand, but radically fundamentally the mind is changed because the mind is shaped by knowledge. The organism has been shaped by knowledge, by experience. It’s molded. It’s plastic. Understand that the brain is like that. It will become an identity. It will tell you, it will create stories. The more knowledge that I acquired as I evolved, as I grew, as I experienced and gathered more and more and more, it always would strengthen the me. It would always strengthen this identity that I built up about all the things my brain told me I was.
Kevin Aillaud:
So there was the story running in my mind about who I was and what the world is, and what my place in the world must be. I’ve been walking that path. In that place, I had been walking that path of the story for what seemed like a millennium. For what seemed like my entire life. It seemed, forever it seemed because time is so relative, because time is a mental construct and it seemed forever. I said maybe I have to look at this problem completely differently. Maybe it’s time to make a change, which is not to walk the path at all. Which is to basically get off the path to get rid of all the knowledge that I had acquired, all the identity. I don’t mean knowledge lik Math, like how to count and understanding how to communicate. I’m talking about the thoughts, the subjectivity. All the identity, remove every story. Every piece of what it means to identify with Kevin Aillaud.
Kevin Aillaud:
Now my life conditions at the time had offered that option to me based on the choices I had made previously. You guys know this, right? You guys know the universal truth. You guys know that whatever the results that I was receiving in my life at that time, the life conditions that were offered to me outside of circumstance. I mean the results that I was creating for myself had been based on my beliefs. They had been based on previous choices. Choices I made from the past, consciously or unconsciously. I had begun to create results for myself that were breaking away from what I had known as safe and familiar. I was doing this unconsciously. I wasn’t doing this in that self-help way by choice to move toward discomfort. I was doing it unconsciously. I was doing it in what people call self-sabotage. But having the result be the person I am today, I would never say that I sabotaged myself.
Kevin Aillaud:
Really what I was doing was I was revealing myself, and I simply created an environment that I had to experience in order to get to where I am today. It seemed at the time like great suffering. It seemed at the time like self-sabotage, but of course it wasn’t. It was growth to become what I am now, and this place of removing all knowledge is unfamiliar to the mind. The moment the mind comes into being, it’s already formed in that knowledge. It’s already caught in knowledge, because the external environment catches it. It’s implicit in the structure of thought. So first of all, to have knowledge about the outward and then to come and apply it to the inward, that’s really what the mind does. We make it subjective and therefore, without even understanding outwardness, it was going to be caught. It was going to be caught in what it was observing.
Kevin Aillaud:
You see, and as soon as the brain was developed enough to think about the inward, to have that prefrontal cortex to think about our own thought, then it would extend the knowledge outward to the inward and to the area of psychological becoming. That growing of identity. That developing of more of who I am. At this point it is the extent of building of more, of more knowledge that leads to more identity and more story. So it’s like the overflowing cup. There was too much. There was too much identity in me. Too much of me, if you could say that. If you could say there was too much identity, there was too much story. There was too many words. There were too many thought, there were too many judgments, too many opinions. Too much of the beta structure that was holding onto the outward, that was holding onto that external with such attachment. Too much story.
Kevin Aillaud:
It is not just my own identity, because it was the whole of the process. It was listening to everything. It was listening to and taking in all the knowledge, all the ideas. Not just my own ideas, but all the ideas that I had assimilated. That I had listened to and I’d open myself up to. The religious ideas, whether they would be Christian or Muslim or Buddha or the preachers of India and the teachers. Or whether it was the explanations of the mystics and the esoterics of the religions and the spiritualists, or whether it was a psychological explanations or the philosophical explanations. The Freud’s, the Locke’s, the Marx’s and all the forms of concepts or theories. All the things, all the stuff, all the external construct of idea, but not just the external forms. You’re also, I have observed myself in all of this, my place here. See because I’ve learned about myself. I had decided what I was. I had chosen.
Kevin Aillaud:
I had made that choice, that judgment, that thought, that belief. At the end of it with no result, but the perpetuation of the human condition I said perhaps this is the wrong way of looking at it. Having looked at it for so long, having that way of identity, that way of belief and of ego, I finally I was able to feel. There was a feeling, it wasn’t a thought because the thought was the problem. There was the feeling that something was wrong. Given the whole set of circumstances, given the life conditions that I was in at the time, it was bound to happen. It was almost like a non drug induced rock bottom, that place of everything is gone. So now I have come to this point when I say all that is knowledge, I’m getting rid of it. I’m removing it purposefully, because that hasn’t led me anywhere. When I say led me, I mean led me in the sense that I am not free of my beta condition. I am not living in freedom.
Kevin Aillaud:
I am emotionally shackled to the behaviors of other people and to the present unfolding imperfection. I’m really shackled to what these, the external to my circumstances. So that alone isn’t enough because if I say it hasn’t worked, I can always hope that it may or suppose that it might. But in fact, I would say that it can’t work. I can be definite on that, it cannot work because it’s based on time. It’s based on knowledge and it has that memory. It has that thought, that subjectivity, that judgment. Because of that judgment, there were these explanations always based on thought, acquired in knowledge so on that as far as I’ve come at that point in my life, given that time, I had based it on knowledge, on thought, on identity, on belief. Not only on thought, but also on the habitual patterns of skill and all that.
Kevin Aillaud:
Whatever I was acting, whatever my actions were that were creating my results coming from my beliefs, because those are the extension of thought. So when I put all that aside and I looked and I observed all that, not casually. Not just haphazardly but with focus, with intention, purpose and saying this, I’m putting this away. Not with an interest in the future, but because I see the same pattern. Because I could see, I could feel. Then it’s not seeing with eyes or it’s… All of a sudden there’s just this feeling that the same pattern being repeated, repeated, repeated globally and locally, generally and specifically, in groups and with individuals. In different colors and different phrases, with different pictures here and different images there. It’s always repeated.
Kevin Aillaud:
So I make this radical choice to remove all that, just move it out. Clean it up like the room. You turn on the light in the room and you see it and you feel it, and it’s there and you remove it totally, completely. You have an empty room. So going north, I’m traveling this direction this north for what seems in eternity since the beginning of time and the beginning of mind, then there is stoppage. Then there’s just it stops, which means to say that the mind has changed. My mind was changed, and the structure of the me is gone. Finished with this constant becoming through experience, knowledge, thought, patterns, belief systems. I see everybody pointing out the way to end the self, and that way is based on thought and time and knowledge. I say I know that, because that is where I’ve heard of before. But that’s where we end it. This is said in this way by that group, and this is said in another way when it comes from you at another group.
Kevin Aillaud:
I’m informed and full of this knowledge, and so I have to discard it. The cup is full, the cup is overflowing. Therefore, the mind has to break the pattern completely. I am going north and I stop, and I start going east. That breaks the pattern completely. So all right, so now I say this, I say this as this has happened to me. I’ve gone inside and I’ve broken away from the pattern, and learned how to believe hard things. So how to help, please help another human come to that as well. Can I choose for you to strip away everything you think you know about yourself and the world, so that you can develop cognitive mastery and intentionally live the life of your dreams? Intentionally live your life in creation. First you must be interested. You must listen. You have to take action. There has to be all of that.
Kevin Aillaud:
There has to be the desire, the want, the belief, the knowledge, the feeling. It has to be from there, and there cannot be a falling back, right? The action has to be taken. You know what I mean? It’s like don’t finish this podcast and go back to the old thought patterns. What will help you absorb so completely? What is the universal truth so that in your blood, in your brain, in your way, in your path, everything so that you see this thing, you feel this thing, you experience this alpha state? For you to learn to believe hard things, you must meet the universal truth. Meet, not know. Not understand, but meet. Like you would meet a person, like you would experience a relationship. You must meet the immovable. So what happened for me was that. I am a human being. Ordinary, fairly intelligent, right? Fairly well-read, I would say. Experienced.
Kevin Aillaud:
Trying this, that, the other things. Experimenting, trying to understand and I meet this immovable C. But I can’t listen to the C. There’s no communication. There’s no knowledge, no explanation in C. There is only what is, there is only this. There is only this, the immovable. I’ve walked the ground, I mean the area endlessly back and forth. Corner to corner. I’ve moved every direction. All cardinal directions, north, east, south west. I’ve walked all over the area and C comes along and says, “Look, there’s something different. There’s a different way of living.” Something totally new, but C does not enter into explanation because C refuses to enter into explanation. Explanation is the old pattern. It’s the old knowledge of identity and thought. Explanation is thought. Explanation is subjectivity. It is not word. C is not going to use words. C is not of the words we use as humans.
Kevin Aillaud:
It is not in telling. C does not come to us through knowledge. It is not an understanding. If there is resistance, one does not see the resistance because C comes along and says, “Look, eat this.” Right? It’s like eat this and you say, “I would eat it if I could see it.” But you can see it very clearly. You can see it, but you want it to be explained to you. You want to understand it. You want C to explain to you what you see, and C says don’t go back. Don’t go back to the pattern. Just see it, When you ask how can I see, because you’re there. You’re wanting to understand the alpha state, how am I to see? That asking, that requirement of knowledge is the old pattern. It’s there. Just see it. It’s right there in front of you. Perfection all the time. C refuses to enter into the pattern of judgment, of subjectivity, of good, bad, better, worse, of that there is the duality. That pattern is explanation.
Kevin Aillaud:
That pattern is knowledge. So C says, “Come this way and don’t go back. Leave it.” Then refuses to explain, because explanations are the boats on which you use to cross to the other shore. On the other shore, there is no boat. Just cross. There is no explanation that will get you to the other shore. So C is asking something important, may be impossible. What am I to do? I only know how to cross the water on a boat. I only know my world through my brain. Through thought, through subjectivity. How can I perceive what is beyond? I am meeting this C, which is immovable. Either I go around, I go through, I avoid, I cannot do any of that. But C absolutely refuses to enter into the game of words. Then what am I who has played games with words? What am I to do when only words is what I understand, with the words is what I use to create my understanding? C won’t leave me alone.
Kevin Aillaud:
This feeling, this knowing won’t leave me alone. I mean leave me alone in the sense that there may be the moments, but C the thing, it’s immovable. It’s with me. It’s always there. It’s day and night. I can’t battle with it, because there’s nothing I can get ahold of. So what happens to me, what happens to the me? To the identity, to the ego, to the beta condition when I meet something that is completely solid, completely immovable, completely and absolutely true? What happens to me, which is illusion, which is identity, which is thought, which is just word? Could that be the barrier? Could the barrier to the alpha state be that the perfection that is always unfolding in front of us is unknowable to what we know? Is it that we have just never met something like that? We can think about the greatest mountains. We can think about Kilimanjaro or the Himalayas, but the Himalayas, you can climb the Himalayas.
Kevin Aillaud:
You can climb Mount Everest, but they’re always there. In the same way, is it possible that human beings are just needing to meet something so irrevocable. Something absolutely immovable. We haven’t seen it because either we’re terribly puzzled by it, or we say, “Well, I can’t do anything about it.” Then we walk away from it. Or is it something that we investigate? Here is a solid thing. I’m confronted by it. As I said, I might run away from it, which is what I generally do, right? What most people do is they run from the perfection. They resist or they worship it, or they try to understand what it is. But when I do all these things, I’m back in my old pattern. I’m back into thinking, because there’s no experience, there’s no integration. So to remove all that, when meeting this circumstance who is immovable, I see what the nature of it is. I am moveable as a human being because as a human being, I am in line with the universal truth. I’m in alignment with it.
Kevin Aillaud:
I’m a co-creator, but C is immovable. The circumstance, the contact with it does something. It must do something. It’s not some mystique. Guys, this is not some spiritual stuff. I’m not talking to you about some woo-woo stuff, right? Then all that kind of stuff. It is complexly simple and simply complex. You face it, you see it, you feel it, you know it. It doesn’t matter what word you use, it’s there. In this moment, there is a radical shift from fullness to emptiness, because from emptiness you learned to believe hard things from the alpha state. What is working is something of a shock at first, naturally because I am being moving, moving, moving. I am constantly in this thought. I’m constantly in this time. I’m constantly wondering what’s next, what’s next? I’m in the past. I’m in the future. My mind is running and constantly thinking this buzz, this hum. This beta condition and I meet something that’s immovable, and suddenly something takes place. It must take place.
Kevin Aillaud:
Obviously it must. Not something that you can see, but it takes place because the circumstance C is not becoming. C is the structure. C is permanent. C is eternal. I am becoming. When I recognize that it is me that is the one that is in flux, not the external. That is change. The mind has to change, and C has not been through explanations and all the rest of it. I meet that because there cannot be thought with that. That is where I met the alpha state. It was from the emptiness of recognizing I am not my mind. I am not my thoughts. My thoughts are not connected to the external. The external is guiding me into perfection. That was my journey. I had to meet C. C, the circumstance is of life and if you need to listen to this episode again to understand that every time I said C, I was talking about the circumstance. The neutral facts, the data, the organic data. Cellular data, the inorganic molecular data, the atomic data. Everything outside of you that we’re being offered.
Kevin Aillaud:
We as humans are being offered from a place of empty acceptance. That’s where I learned to accept the circumstances of life from emptiness, rather than from overflowing resistance of thought and knowledge and subjectivity and judgment. You will only learn to believe hard things when you recognize your resistance is a belief. The resistance of knowledge, the resistance of over flowing subjectivity. The movement to neutral, the movement to emptiness. The movement into the perfection of the present and accept it what is being offered to you for you, that is the integration. That is the elevation of the alpha state, and that’s what I have for you guys today. Brothers, as a reminder, I will be releasing three episodes next week for a three-part series I call Training for Chaos. Be ready for those to come out next week.
Kevin Aillaud:
In the meantime, while you are going through the changes in our global circumstances, I offer to you, for you, to go to the alphamalecoach.com and sign up for a free 45 minute coaching call. Look guys, I am here for you. I know that in this time, the best thing you can do is to get some coaching because if your brain is telling you things, is giving you sentences, feeding you believes that are creating emotions that are not serving you. That are creating emotions of panic, creating emotions of fear, creating emotions of scarcity. You are not a victim of your circumstances. You don’t have to feel afraid. You don’t have to feel in panic. You can determine how you want to feel in order to serve your best result. In order to get the result that you’re looking for. I can help you help yourself with whatever you’re struggling with, and I know that a lot of you are struggling right now. That’s the whole idea behind next week’s three part series.
Kevin Aillaud:
It’s not the circumstance, my brother. The circumstance, the immovable C, the perfection of circumstance is never the problem. It is always the gift. The problem is the thought, the accumulation of knowledge that you are not directing intentionally. You have the ability to determine your thoughts and beliefs. That is your power. That is your alpha. So until next week, my friends, my brothers, all of you out there, elevate your alpha.
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